Never try to impress someone by being someone you are not because it will always backfire. Eventually, your true colors will be revealed and that may be a too much of a shock for your partner to handle. Of course, initially, when we begin dating, we put our best foot forward, and that is expected, but you don’t want to come out of the gate pretending to be someone you are not just to impress your date. In other words, if your date is a diehard sports fan and you absolutely loathe sports don’t pretend to be a sports junkie. Sure, you may be trying to win over your date’s affections but if you are going about it in the wrong way you may jeopardize a potentially good relationship or you may be forcing chemistry that just really isn’t there. Remember, people connect for many reasons, not just common interest. While you do need a few common denominators, you don’t have to be on the same page with everything.
You want to date your best friend
Wanting to date your best friend happens all the time. Maybe it is a lifelong friend, a college buddy or a colleague who has become a close personal friend. You have been through a lot together and tell each other everything. You talk about your family, friendships, love life, sex life and are completely comfortable with this person as your best friend, until one day, you realize you are attracted to this person. If you confess your affections, they may not be reciprocated and that could make your friendship uncomfortable, but if you don’t tell them, you may never have an opportunity to develop a romance with someone you already consider your best friend. It is a gamble, but one that should be played. Yes, there is that possibility that they may not have those mutual feelings but you will at least know, and, if your friendship is that solid, it will eventually rebound and be okay. However, if your best friend feels the same, then the hard part is already done and you can step into the romance phase. Yes, it can be scary because it is risky – sometimes it doesn’t work out and you’ve lost a friend, but if your feelings are that intense, see where fate leads.
Is it okay to date someone you are unsure about?
Many people will not date unless they feel some sort of attraction, and let’s face it, attraction is important. However, you don’t have to be head-over-heals for someone to go out a few times. Often, attractions are developed over time and if you are just so-so about someone, it is okay to give it a few dates to see if there is anything there. You may find the person interesting and easy to talk to, or playful and fun. They may not physically be your type, but as you uncover their personality, you may find that those superficialities don’t seem to matter anymore.