Don’t Be Shy

Are you a shy person? Then this post is for you. Are not a shy person? Then this post is still for you. More than just “don’t be shy,” I want to encourage you to be certain of yourself, to know what you like and don’t like, and to not let yourself be walked all over.
Know thyself
To be completely comfortable in a situation you need to do two things. First, you need to know yourself. You need to know what you like, what you dislike, and what you are indifferent about. Do you like spicy food? Ethnic food? Stars? Cool weather? Do you dislike snooty people? Chinese food? Calamari? Winter? Ice? You get the picture. . . Once you know what you like, what you dislike, and what you are indifferent about you can get to know your date better. If he/she likes everything that you dislike and dislikes everything that you like, well, the relationship won’t last very long. Both you and your date need to get to know each others likes and dislikes if you want this relationship to work. So that you don’t confuse your date and yourself, you need to know yourself.
The second thing that you need to do is stop thinking about yourself once you know yourself. Be willing to try new things and consider things that you really couldn’t care less about. Once you know yourself, get to know your date.
Be assertive
Don’t let anyone walk all over you, least of all your date. Now, you are probably only going out with a gentleman/lady – a nice and considerate person. What we are talking about here is not changing your strong opinions about things just to try to please your date. Of course, if your date says something to make you really evaluate an opinion that you hold, and you decided that you want to change it after considering the matter, then change your opinion by all means! Please just don’t try to please your date by parroting their ideas, likes, and dislikes. Your differences, as well as the similarities that you have, are what make you interesting to each other.
Be nice
Please don’t be shy to speak and speak your mind – let your date know what you like or what you don’t like! However, please do not be rude, abrasive, or over-assertive. In other words, please let your date talk and considering his/her opinions; please don’t trash their thoughts and discount their ideas. Really listen, and really be interested in your date. Remember that any relationship requires give and take. . .sometimes a lot of give and not as much take.

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