How to Deal With Being Jealous

Jealousy can be healthy for a relationship. It makes you more aware of what an amazing person you are with. By being more aware, you may appreciate your partner more or even show some more affection towards them. Showing your jealous also can make your partner feel wanted and attractive. We all get envious once in a while and that’s all right. How you deal with your jealousy is essential to keeping your relationship healthy and not toxic.
If your partner has done something to make you feel jealous, it’s best not to express it angrily. Instead, calmly communicate with him and let him know how you feel and why you feel the way you do. Are you angry or insecure because of how he looked at the woman walking by? Tell him that. Don’t just get mad and not tell him why. He may be clueless. Let’s be frank, men like to look at pretty things and people. If a beautiful woman walked by he may have just appreciated it and that’s all it was. Going nuclear on him right away isn’t right and not fair to him. Sometimes you have to think of it from his perspective before you fly off the handle.
Now if your partner is behaving a certain way with other women or minimizing your feelings and trivializing them, still keep calm. There is no right or wrong in this situation. You feel the way you feel for a reason and there needs to be some sort of resolution or agreement. Explain how you feel, again do this calmly and continue to observe his behavior. If he brushes off how you feel and still proceeds on with the behavior then you may have a bigger problem in your relationship.
Never bury your feelings of jealousy, especially when it comes to your relationship. Always communicate how you feel to your partner. Sometimes being jealous can be a reflection of our own insecurity. Unless your partner has done something completely immoral or wrong; give him a pass on checking out that gorgeous woman who just walked by. Instead of yelling at him for staring, give his hand a squeeze, a kiss on the cheek, and a reason why you find him so handsome. He’ll forget about that woman very quickly.

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