How to Deal With Emotional Cheating

You just caught your partner being emotionally unfaithful to you. Now what? Before you scream in rage about how hurt you are, there are other ways to deal with emotional cheating. It’s important you handle yourself and the situation properly before any rash decisions are made.
Initially you may feel anger, betrayal, and above all else heartbroken at the fact your partner has been unfaithful to you. Then the feelings of self-doubt can emerge. You may think you are the reason he cheated. Throwing yourself fully into the relationship, by being overly nurturing or complimenting, can do more harm than good. It may push your partner further away, as wrong as that sounds. Also don’t demand his loyalty immediately after the event. As hard it may be, you need to give him time and space.
You might be wondering why you should give him the luxury of space when he was wrong. Well, giving him time will let him think about what he wants. Instead of waiting on him hand and foot, give yourself some “me time” to avoid any further confrontation. Giving him the opportunity to think things over will help him make his decision or perhaps have him realize that what he is doing is wrong on all fronts. He isn’t being fair to you, the other person, or himself.
Now there is a difference between giving him his space and avoiding him completely. The quality of time you spend together is extremely important especially if you want to piece your relationship back together. When you are with each other, don’t take that time to remind him of all the wrongs he has done. Instead of pointing the finger, have an open conversation about the matter. If need be, do it in a public place so both of you are able to control you anger.
You need to realize that in the end, no matter how much effort you put in, he may not want to be with you anymore. If that is the case, then it’s time to move on. Don’t plead him to stay to try to fix things. Now if he does want to make things better, it will take time to heal the wounds created from emotional cheating.

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