Ellie seemed really cool online. We were having long messaging conversations and finding out all sorts of cool things about each other. I felt that I had a really clear picture of who she was and I was really looking forward to meeting her properly for the first time.
My best friend, who always has my best interests at heart, said “Have you googled her yet?” No, the thought hadn’t even crossed my mind, why would I google someone I didn’t even know. ”Why wouldn’t you?” Was his reply.
I’m not the sort of person who likes to spend a lot of time in front of a computer, which is why the Online Dating was such an amusement for me at the time. It was very new, and I was surprised at how easy it is to connect with people. I didn’t want to pry, because I feel that everyone deserves a certain amount of privacy, whether it is in the physical world or the virtual one. So I resisted my best friend’s suggestion.
Unfortunately he didn’t. I had told him quite a bit about Ellie, because I was excited about meeting her and enthusiastic about where I felt things were going between us. Being my best friend though, he did the search for me… “I really think you need to google her!” Was all that he would say on the matter.
Knowing that my best friend had already done the deed and obviously found something he wanted me to see, I thought I had better do a search. I found out that Ellie was a Writer, which was quite interesting to me because she hadn’t mentioned it in our messaging conversations. I found a blog, and the more I read the more ill I felt. Ellie had been writing about me, but not just about me, she had been writing about all of her Online Dating experiences, and there were archives full of it.
I didn’t know what to do. Should I confront her about it? I wanted to know if all the things she had shared with me in her messages were true. In the end I knew I had to confront her. She wasn’t embarrassed at being caught out. She admitted that I was just research for stories on the blog, and then went on to explain that I had nothing to worry about, and that she always changed the names of men she met online. So there was really nothing more I could say on the matter. It put me off Online Dating for life though!