Should You Stay Friends After Breaking Up?

Breaking up is a hard thing to do. At times it’s messy and emotionally draining. So what do you do now after you and your significant other end the relationship? Should you try to be friends or cut him completely out of your life? Even if you want him in your life in some way, shape, or form, it might not be the best idea to force a friendship, especially if the breakup wasn’t amicable or mutual.
If he broke up with you, it’s highly likely you are not over him. In order to move on with your life and get over him, you need to not be friends with him until the heartache is over. Trying to keep him in your life when you still have romantic feelings for him will be unhealthy for you. While he’s moving on you will still be pining for him and then when he has a new girlfriend you won’t be able to help the jealous feelings that develop. Save yourself the heartache and keep him off your radar for a while. Delete him from your social platforms and get rid of his number. If he is meant to be in your life, it will happen, don’t force it and be miserable.
Even mutual breakups can be tricky so tread carefully. If you find yourself constantly checking to see what he’s up to or vice versa it’s not a great idea to stay friends. It’s also never good either if you two are now just “friends” but still occasionally hook up with each other. Friends don’t hookup and by doing this you can cause any lingering feelings for him to return. If the breakup was mutual and you both are completely fine with dating other people, then a friendship may be possible.
In the end, you need to be honest with yourself. If you know you won’t be able to handle him finding someone else or the fact he will treat you differently now that you both are friends, then it’s not a good idea to be friends. It may be hard at first but you need to realize that this relationship was part of your journey and now you need to move on without him.

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