Most people enjoy being in a relationship because there is a fulfillment that comes with companionship. When you find someone that you thoroughly enjoy their company, they are meeting most of your emotional needs, you have a lot of fun with that person, and you genuinely enjoy being with them, then you have a relationship that is worth working hard to keep. It is easy to work hard on a relationship in the beginning stages, especially when you are trying to win a person over. It seems that you will do whatever you have to in order to win their heart. It is even easy to work hard in a relationship when things are going good because you are happy and want to maintain that level of happiness. Unfortunately, relationships are not always bliss, and the tide will turn and things will get tough. Sadly, many relationships fall apart and end because they cannot make it through those rough patches. Many couples see the rough patches as a sign to give up or throw in the towel. They feel that the hard times are evidence that they should not be together. However, that is most likely the contrary. You have to go into a relationship expecting that there will be hard moments, and things won’t always be easy, and, it is during those hard times that your relationship can grow. There may be moments when you wonder if the relationship is worth all the hard work, and those are the times you need to reflect on the past, and what you know is true about the relationship. When couples are faced with harder times that is the time to work hard. No matter what the struggle, you can get through it by staying committed and working hard, and come out even stronger for the experience.
Love is a choice
Many newlyweds or couples that are in a newer relationship are in the phase of the union that is blissful, things are easy and they are in love. It is a good place to be in a relationship because things are easy. You could never imagine that your feelings would wear off or change or that you may have days when you do not really like your partner, but, unfortunately, it does happen, even to the best of couples, those couples that are very much in love. As relationships grow and mature you begin to share your life with that person. You see them at their very best, and you also see them at their very worst. You learn that like most people, the once thought to be perfect partner you were with is riddled with flaws. There are stresses on the relationship, professional stresses, emotional stressors, possibly children, finances and so much more and over time, the wear and tear of stress affects the relationship. Many couples get to a point where they do not feel any love towards their partner and this, of course, can be a daunting and frightening feeling. When people are in a relationship they need to remember that love is a choice. You will not always feel the romantic, butterflies or the intimate feelings that you have had or, that you are used to feeling. You may at times, even experience feeling distant or that you do not like this person you are with, and that is when you have to choose to love your partners. You choose to love them through the harder times, and the times when they are not so pleasant to be around. Eventually, things do get better if you choose to love your partner even when they are unlovable.