Are you a beginner at texting your crush and don’t know where to start? I’ve been there, done that. I know the stress and anxiety of what to say and not say on a text message. So, I created this guide to teach you the basics of how to text your crush.
1. Make Sure You Have Their Number.
Whether you’re a boy or a girl, nobody can deny that there’s something thrilling about texting your crush—the anticipation that builds around waiting for a text back, the anxiousness that comes with trying to compose the perfect response; there are so many feelings involved in sending and receiving texts. But before you get too wrapped up in all of these emotions, it’s important to make sure you have the right digits. If you’re at all unsure whether or not they’re the right person, look them up on Facebook or Twitter to double-check that their profile picture matches who they claim to be.
If they don’t have one of these social media outlets (or if they don’t use it), ask around to see if anyone else has their number and check with them. You might also try asking them directly if you can send them a message and see how they respond.
2. Pay Attention To The Way You’re Coming Across.
It’s easy to get carried away when you’re texting someone who you like and who you’re attracted to. You can’t help it if you have a massive crush on them, but you can help the way in which you communicate with them over text. If your texts are really short (one or two words), or they don’t make sense, or if it seems like you’re not putting any effort into your messages, that’s not cool. You need to be able to express yourself properly when texting your crush because, based on how they respond (or don’t!), you’re going to get an idea of how they feel about you.
So, if they’re doing all of the talking — asking questions but not answering any themselves — maybe they’re not as interested in getting to know you better as you thought. If their responses are super quick and short, maybe they’ve got other things on their mind and aren’t thinking about conversing with you. And no matter what you do, do not ever initiate an argument with your crush via text message. It will just put them off and will give them even more reason to stop talking to you altogether.
You want to come across as fun, interesting and flirty, so make sure you do just that!
3. Put A Little Thought Into Your Messages.
If you’re going to get someone’s attention, you have to put a little thought into your messaging. After all, everyone is texting with all sorts of people all day, so if you want to make an impression, you need to be memorable!
One of the keys to this is having something interesting to say. The best way to come up with conversation starters is by thinking about things the person you like might enjoy talking about. For example, if your crush likes backpacking, asking him or her about their favorite hike would be a great way to start a conversation. The key here is that you don’t want your messages to sound like every other text they get.
Of course, if you don’t know much about them yet, then it can be tough to think of something that isn’t generic and that will spark some conversation. This is why it’s important for you to figure out what makes them tick so that when the time comes for some messaging, there will always be topics ready and waiting on the tip of your tongue!
4. Start A Text Conversation With A Question.
It can be something as simple as “How are you?” or “What are you up to?” You can even ask something as simple as “Hey” if you want to keep the conversation short and sweet. If you’re nervous about starting a text conversation with your crush, use a question that will make him/her think about their answer for a while. This will give them something to focus on, so they can avoid getting nervous about texting you back. Also, asking your crush something will make them feel like they have something in common with you, which can help both of you become more comfortable talking to each other. Just avoid asking long, open-ended questions that will give your crush too much time to think of an answer.
5.Send Your Crush Something Funny.
At some point, you may want to just send a funny text message to your crush. It doesn’t have to be anything too elaborate—it could even be a simple comic strip or meme! This is an easy way to keep the conversation going and make your crush laugh.
6.Don’t Send An Emoji-Only Text.
The only time it’s acceptable to send an emoji-only text message is when you’re not really talking about anything in particular; rather, you just want your crush to know that you’re thinking about them. In this case, pick one or two emojis that best describe how you’re feeling at the moment and send them over!
7. Don’t Always Respond Immediately.
It’s so tempting to reply right away when you get a text from your crush. You don’t want them to think you’re not interested, or worse, that you’re too busy and distracted for a conversation with them. But let’s be honest—waiting for their response will just cause you to get more anxious with each passing minute. It can also seem desperate, especially if they don’t respond as quickly as you do (which is often the case).
Instead of sending a reply within seconds, take a few minutes to think about what you want to say. Your crush will appreciate getting a thoughtful response when they were expecting an eager and immediate one. This is also a good way to avoid knee-jerk reactions that you might regret later. You can even use this time to find out more about them by asking questions or looking them up on social media. It’s never a bad idea to have a little more intel before sending off that next text message!
8. Compliment Them Once In A While.
Everyone likes to feel appreciated and special, so don’t be afraid to let your crush know that you think they’re awesome. Compliments about their appearance are always nice, but once in a while it’s good to get personal and notice or compliment something about them as an individual. You can mention a particular skill they have, an accomplishment they achieved, or even just something they said that you found interesting or funny. This will let them know that you really pay attention when you’re with them and that you like the person they are on the inside as well as the outside.
Don’t get so caught up in the trying-to-impress your crush angle that you lose sight of yourself. Settle for nothing less than putting you best self forward, and don’t settle for anything less than their interest in return.