You’ve been single for a while and you’re ready to get back into the dating scene. You just don’t know where to start. You might not have any idea on how to find someone, or even where to go.
It’s always fun and exciting when you first start dating someone new but if you are constantly repeating the same mistakes, it will never work out. Here are 10 steps that will help you get back into the dating scene and find love!
Get your confidence back
There’s no better way to get back into the dating scene than by getting your confidence back. Go out with your friends, get a haircut, dress up, and smile! You don’t have to change who you are but it’s ok to try new things.
Let go of the past
If you’re still upset about your last relationship, you can’t start a new one. You need to let go of the past so that you can have a healthy future. If you don’t do this, it will affect your current relationships and all your future ones.
Find the right dating apps and websites
The first step is to find the right dating apps and websites. It sounds like a no-brainer, but you might be surprised how many people make this mistake. There are plenty of great dating apps out there and the best one for you will depend on your personal preference.
Start by creating a profile on your favorite site, then spend some time completing the profile’s questions. You can also use sites such as Match to find matches that are close to you or browse through profiles on OkCupid or Plenty of Fish.
Be yourself
Don’t try to be someone you’re not. It’s your personality that will make someone want to date you. If you’re trying to act like someone else, it just won’t work.
Be confident when you first meet someone
One of the most important steps to finding someone new is being confident and comfortable when you first meet them. If you know you are going to be shy or nervous, then come up with a plan for how to deal with that. You can either tell them in advance or on the spot that you get nervous sometimes and ask for their help, but keep it short and sweet.
If you are meeting someone for a date, try not to sound awkward when talking about your interests and hobbies. Talking about these things will make the other person more interested in getting to know you.
Don’t forget your smile-a smile is always good! Keep it natural and even if it doesn’t feel 100% genuine at first, just continue smiling until it does feel genuine.
Another step would be to have a conversation with yourself before the date so that way they don’t seem like they’re coming out of nowhere. This will help you get all of your thoughts out and will also make sure that you don’t forget anything major.
Do your research on who you’re meeting ahead of time so that way there’s no awkward silences when it comes to what they do in their free time or if they have any hobbies or interests outside of work.
Keep it casual and fun
The first step to getting back into the dating scene is keeping it casual and fun. This will help you to be more open and make new connections.
Starting with something small like coffee, a walk in the park, or even just texting can help you get used to the idea of being around someone new.
It’s important not to rush things with your date because it could lead to awkward moments and mistakes that are easily avoidable if you take your time.
Don’t have a plan for your date before you leave the house. Keep it natural and let your date take the lead by suggesting different things that interest them. You’ll find out more about them this way as well!
If you’re meeting up for coffee or lunch, don’t forget to keep some cash with you! A “running low on cash” excuse is never a good one!
Give yourself a break if you’re not feeling any chemistry with the person
Even if you’ve had a few dates and there is no chemistry, that doesn’t mean you should give up. You never know what could happen in the future. So if you’re not feeling it right now, don’t force yourself to continue on with this person. You might find someone else who sparks your interest down the road!
Have patience
The number one thing to remember when meeting someone for the first time is patience. You may not be feeling that instant connection with this person, but give them a chance. Remember, you’re on your first date so don’t make a judgement call yet.
If you feel like this isn’t going anywhere, then politely excuse yourself and wish them well.
Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable, be open with your feelings
Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable, be open with your feelings.
Everyone has felt lonely, but it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. It’s okay to cry, scream or punch a pillow – just don’t do those things on a date! You’ll want to take the time and figure out what you need in order to feel happy again.
No one is perfect, don’t expect them to be either
It is important that you keep in mind that no one is perfect. You cannot expect someone to be perfect for you, just because you are not perfect for them. If you’re constantly finding flaws in the people who show interest in you and try to change them, then there’s a good chance that they will eventually give up on you.
So don’t expect perfection from your partner and be sure to love them as they are!