You’re on a date, and things are going great. There may even be an opportunity to take the relationship from dating to casual dating, or maybe even to long-term dating. But before you get too excited about moving forward, you may want to check for these signs that she’s leading you on.
1. She only texts you when she’s bored.
If a girl is only texting you when she’s bored, it’s because she’s looking for someone to entertain her. When her friends are busy or she doesn’t have anything better to do, she’ll reach out to you. If the tables were turned and you only texted her when you were bored, she’d see right through it as a transparent attempt at attention-seeking.
2. She never talks to you first.
Most girls who are into a guy will make an effort to reach out and start conversations with him. If she never initiates texting or phone calls, it might be because she’s not all that interested in actually taking things further with you. She doesn’t invite you anywhere. This is especially true if she’s hanging out with other guys without extending the same invitation to you. When we like someone, we’ll make time to hang out with them — and even make time for them when no one else is around. She doesn’t take any initiative in the relationship. With two people who feel equally about each other, there’s a mutual exchange of romantic gestures and shows of affection. If she never texts first or makes plans first or makes any move toward escalating things physically, then it’s possible that she doesn’t feel as strongly about you as you feel about her. She doesn’t flirt with you or give you much attention
3. She makes fun of your hobbies.
If she keeps making fun of your hobbies or things that you’re interested in, this is a sign that she’s not into you. Sure, teasing someone can be a sign of affection, but when someone makes fun of the things that actually matter to you, they are probably just trying to push your buttons.
4. She doesn’t care about the things that matter to you.
It’s not a good sign if she doesn’t seem interested when you talk about something that matters to you. If she just seems bored, or like she could care less, it’s time to drop her and find someone who will have a genuine interest in what you’re passionate about.
5. She flirts with other guys in front of you.
If she finds excuses to hang out with other guys in front of you, it’s time for you to move on. It’s one thing if she has male friends, but it’s another if she is always making an effort to flirt with them in front of you. It means she wants to make sure you know what she is capable of and that you should watch your back.
6.She always cancels at the last minute.
If she always cancels at the last minute, it’s because she’s either not interested or because she’s still playing around with other people. Women who are genuinely interested will make sure they keep their dates with you whenever possible because they don’t want to lose their chance at having something good with you.
7. She only calls when she needs something.
If someone only calls when they need something from you, they’re probably trying to take advantage of your kindness and generosity. If a girl only contacts you when she needs help moving or picking up her groceries, it’s time for you to start ignoring her calls.
8. She doesn’t do anything for you, no matter how much you try and help her
If both sides are trying equally as hard in a relationship, then it will work out. But if one side is doing all of the work while the other is just getting by, then everything is going to fall apart. If your girlfriend never seems to do anything for you no matter how much effort you put into the relationship and makes you feel like a fool for giving her so much of your time, then it’s a sure sign that she’s not worth dating.
9. She refuses to let you meet her friends and family.
This could mean that she doesn’t want to introduce you to the people who are closest to her because they would disapprove of your relationship — or it could mean that there isn’t a relationship at all! If someone likes you, they want their friends to like you, too. If she’s trying to keep you away from them, it’s probably because she doesn’t see a future with you and isn’t comfortable introducing you as her significant other.
10. She never invites you over to her place.
This could mean that she doesn’t want you to know where she lives, or that she doesn’t want to risk getting intimate with you in case things don’t work out. If a girl wants to take the relationship further, then she will definitely invite you to her house eventually.
11. She asks for your advice.
If a girl constantly asks your advice on what color dress she should wear, what hairstyle suits her best, which guy in her friend group likes her and so on, it’s possible that she only sees you as a friend and not as a boyfriend. She only views you as someone who can give her good advice, but not someone who can be with her romantically.
12. She’s Always Late
She might not be that into you if she’s always late. If she’s not showing up on time for a date, then it means she doesn’t care about you or your time. This is especially true if it’s a problem every time you see each other. That may sound harsh, but it’s the truth and you know it.
13. She’s not posting about you on social media.
This can mean she doesn’t like you, or it might mean that she’s just busy and hasn’t gotten around to updating her status yet. Either way, if she’s not mentioning you in any of her posts, she’s probably not interested in dating you.
14. She only makes time for you last minute.
When she only wants to see you a few hours before she wants to hang out, it’s usually a sign that she doesn’t have much interest. She might tell you something like “I’m bored,” but really, she could be seeing other guys and just using you as a backup plan. If she likes hanging out with you, she should make time for you.
15. She’s always making excuses when you try to hang out.
If she always has some excuse not to hang out, it’s probably because she’s not all that into it. For example, maybe she’ll say “I’m busy this weekend” when it comes time to make plans — but then never suggest an alternative time to get together. This is a classic sign of disinterest.
Of course, everyone’s different, and no one person does the same thing for everyone. But if you notice several of these signs in your interactions with a girl, she may be leading you on. Just be smart about it, and read her actions rather than her words; don’t get so caught up in what she says that you miss what she does.