Relationships are hard work. And in a mutually respectful relationship, each person takes turns at stepping up and fixing things that really need to be fixed. But when these problems aren’t being taken care of properly, experts say your relationship could be sunk.
1. Excessive criticism or complaints
Bringing up all the things you don’t like about someone else will definitely not make them want to fix those things. In fact, it will do the opposite — they’ll resent you, and they’ll be less likely to change.
2. Excessive jealousy
If you’re always questioning your partner’s loyalty or trustworthiness, then there’s a problem — maybe not in them but in the way you view relationships. Jealousy is normal when it comes to a partner’s past or their current attention from others, but if it takes over your relationship, then there’s a problem. Never let jealousy get in the way of a good thing!
3.Lying
Not only is lying wrong, but it can seriously damage your relationship. If you lie to your partner, they may not trust you anymore, and they may begin to question everything you say. This could lead them to find out some other truth that you have hidden from them and come back around to the original lie. It’s just better not to lie at all because once it happens once, it becomes easier and easier to tell another lie. Consider how little trust there could be if someone lies so easily about one thing; what else are they hiding?
4.Unaddressed baggage from exes.
If you have been through a breakup before, especially if it was not amicable, then you have probably found yourself with unresolved feelings about the situation. Often we leave past relationships with negative feelings about our ex, or even ourselves because we feel like something went wrong in the relationship. Whatever the case may be, it is important to address your feelings from previous relationships so that they do not taint your current one. Things like anger and resentment can sometimes creep into new relationships because of unaddressed baggage from past ones.
5. Cheating.
This is one of the major causes of breakups and divorces in relationships. Even though it doesn’t seem like cheating is a big deal, many people think about it and dwell on it for years to come. It’s very difficult to trust someone again after they cheated on you, which is why it usually kills the relationship.
6. Not communicating effectively.
Every couple needs to learn how to communicate with each other effectively. If you don’t know how to do this, it’s important to learn what works best for you and your partner. If one person is talking too much, it’s not fair to the other person who may feel like they’re not being heard. Before long, resentment builds up and begins to affect the relationship negatively.
7. Unrealistic Expectations
If you expect too much of your partner, or if you expect your partner to be someone he/she is not, this can create relationship problems. Unrealistic expectations may include expecting your partner to change basic personality traits, such as always being honest or always being on time. Or, unrealistic expectations might mean expecting your partner to meet all of your needs without help from anyone else. These expectations are not realistic and can cause a lot of stress in the relationship.
8. You blame your relationship for all your problems
If you’re in a bad mood, you think it’s because your significant other is annoying you. If you’re broke, it’s because you have to pay for half of everything. This can be a toxic way to look at the world and can actually add to the problem.
9. You Don’t Take Responsibility For Your Own Happiness
It’s easy to blame your partner when you’re unhappy in a relationship. However, it’s important to remember that no one else is responsible for your happiness. Thinking your partner is responsible for making you happy will only lead to resentment if they don’t do it perfectly every time.
10.You don’t compromise.
No couple is ever going to agree on everything, so it’s important to know when and how to compromise. If you refuse to take someone else’s feelings into account, then you’re bound to end up with heartache sooner or later.
11.Your Partner Is Not Your Priority
Every person wants their partner to be their priority in life but there are some people who do not put this into practice. These people will put others before their partners and this can kill a relationship every time. Your partner should never feel like they are second or third in your life. This is something that you need to make sure does not happen as it can hurt them deeply and make them feel like they are not worth it.
12.Not being loyal:
Loyalty is the key to any good relationship. A relationship without loyalty will not last long. If the other person cannot trust you, then there’s no point in staying with them. Always remember, when they say “fool me once…” they are talking about you.
If these behaviors in relationships bother you, try to remember the simple fact that each misstep is an opportunity to improve your relationship and grow individually. In fact, you may even be able to use some of them as a chance to give your partner a subtle wake-up call about how you would like to be treated. Always keep your focus on the long term goal of being with someone who accepts and values anything and everything that makes up who you are. Such a person will bring out the best in you; and things that kill a relationship every time are simply not worth the risk.