Men, have you ever wondered what mistakes you’re making with the ladies? Around this time of the year, when the weather gets warmer, girls start wearing shorter skirts and less clothes. Have you ever seen a girl and thought to yourself, “Whoa! I wonder if she’d go out with me?” Well I’m here to let you know what mistakes you’re probably making early on in a relationship.
1.Not having your own life.
You should have your own life outside of the relationship. You need to have interests and hobbies, so you don’t get bored when she’s busy. If she’s not into doing those things, it doesn’t mean you should stop doing them altogether, but don’t constantly ask her to join you for every activity if she isn’t interested in doing them with you.
2.Giving up all your time for her.
It can be flattering when someone gives up their time for you, but when it starts becoming an everyday thing (such as always going over to her place or agreeing to do everything she wants), then it becomes annoying. You should still have plenty of time to spend with friends or by yourself, whether she’s busy or not.
3. Calling her immediately after you get her number.
This is one of the more common mistakes. If you call her too soon, she’ll think you’re desperate. This is true even if you’ve been talking for awhile and she gave you her number earlier. If you’re getting anxious because you haven’t heard from her yet, text her something like “Hey, just checking in to see what’s up.” That way it won’t appear that you just spent the last hour waiting by your phone for her to call or text back.
4.Not doing anything romantic early on in the relationship.
It doesn’t really matter how long it’s been since your last date — if you want to keep a woman interested, surprise her with flowers or some other small gift once in awhile. You don’t have to spend a lot of money; just show her that she means more than just another dinner companion or movie partner (which many guys do not realize).
5.Not communicating enough.
When couples start dating, they usually spend a lot of time together — at least in the beginning. Unfortunately, what sometimes happens is that couples get so used to spending time with each other that they don’t spend any time apart; this can be unhealthy for a relationship.
6.Talking about your exes too much.
It’s also important not to talk about your exes too much in the first few weeks of dating; it can seriously damage your relationship if you do. In particular, avoid talking about your ex’s looks, their personality or anything else that might make your partner jealous.
7.Moving in too quickly.
This is perhaps one of the most common mistakes people make when they first start dating someone new: They move in together too quickly. Although moving in together is definitely a big step for any couple, it’s important not to rush into it; otherwise, you could end up making a big mistake!
8.Not saying what you mean
It is important to be open with your partner, but at the same time, it is okay if there are certain things that you don’t want to share with her right away. It is important, however, to communicate this to her so she doesn’t feel like she can’t trust you or that she just plain doesn’t matter enough for you to share something as simple as your feelings. If you don’t want to talk about something, let her know why without being dismissive or rude.
9.Being too touchy-feely early on.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be in touch with your girlfriend all the time. And when you first start dating someone new, there’s an internal compulsion to spend every waking minute with them. But it takes time to really get to know someone and build intimacy, so rushing into things will work against you in the end. So try not to get too freaked out if the girl you’re dating isn’t texting you back every 15 minutes or is taking longer than usual to text you back; it’s probably because she’s busy and feels suffocated by your constant attention.
10.Being too needy
Are you calling her every day? Texting her every hour? You need to give her space and let her miss you otherwise it will feel like a chore for her to be around you and that’s a huge turnoff for women.
11.Talking too much.
One of the biggest mistakes guys make early in the dating process is overthinking things. If you’re talking too much, slow down and let her get a word in edgewise. And if she wants to talk about how her day was, listen, even if it means not saying much yourself.
12.Being negative about past relationships
This is one of the biggest mistakes guys make early on in a relationship, and it’s also one that can be easily fixed. If you are still talking negatively about your ex, then why would she think that you’re over her? Why would she think it was a good idea to get involved with you?
13. Making decisions for her or trying to control her.
It’s understandable that you want to impress her and show her that you’re a good partner…but making decisions for her without asking what she wants can actually have the opposite effect. If she says she doesn’t like sushi, don’t take her out for sushi. If you do and she doesn’t enjoy herself, it’ll seem like you’re not listening and don’t care about what she wants — even if that’s not true at all. Overcompensating by doing everything “right” can actually make you look bad.
14.Not sharing enough of your interests, thoughts, and feelings with her.
One of the biggest issues for many men when it comes to dating is that they don’t share their interests with their partner. Sure, you don’t have to be exactly alike, but if you’re a big movie buff and your partner isn’t, that can be an issue. The problems arise because you may want to spend time doing what you love, but your partner doesn’t have any interest in it. By not sharing these interests with your girlfriend early on, you could end up pushing her away before things even get serious.
15. Don’t Play Games
So many people play games when they begin dating someone new. They wait an arbitrary amount of time before returning calls or texts, play hard to get and see how much they can get away with not saying or doing something they should.
16.Acting too clingy, needy and available 24/7.
Do not be that guy. If you start to act needy and insecure, she will dump you fast. Be confident in yourself and trust your instincts. Instead of asking her what she wants to do, surprise her with something you plan for both of you, even if she has to work around it. She will love that you’re taking charge and planning things with her in mind.
Takeaway: There are lots of mistakes guys can make early on in a relationship but you can avoid many by just staying true to yourself and be honest with her about who you are, what you want and how you think the relationship should develop in the future.