Being sexy to men is something I’ve just taken for granted. For example, I have friends who are obese and claim they have problems finding men that like them. But they just don’t realize the power they have over men; they’re simply using it in all the wrong places. Being sexy to men really isn’t difficult as long as you know where to find them and are nice (not mean or a doormat) when you do meet one.
1. Take pride in your appearance
Taking pride in your appearance is one of the most fundamental ways to feel sexy. If you don’t feel good about how you look, it will be hard for anyone else to see the attractiveness that you have. You can take pride in your appearance by dressing well. Take good care of your clothing and don’t wear anything that is too wrinkled or too tight—or worse, both. You should also make sure that all your clothes are washed before you wear them. In addition to having clean clothes, you should also make sure they fit you well. Clothes that are too big or small will not only look unattractive, but could also make it more difficult for a guy to get his hands on you when he wants to touch you!
Taking care of your personal hygiene is another integral part of feeling sexy. Personal hygiene includes everything from washing your hair and brushing your teeth, to showering regularly and making sure that there is no body odor (BO). BO can happen even if you shower regularly, so be sure to use deodorant every day even if you’re not wearing a lot of clothing.
2. Be romantic
This is important because it lets him know that you are interested and he does not have to guess about whether or not you are. It also shows that you are really interested in him, which will make him feel better about himself and the relationship. He may even feel like he is more desirable than he actually is. You can show your interest in a variety of ways including having an intimate conversation, writing a love letter, or taking a walk together.
3. Be comfortable in your skin.
Men are attracted to confident women who are comfortable in their own skin. A man wants a woman who is sure of herself and what she wants out of life. When he sees you living your life, being yourself, and having fun, he’s going to want to be a part of it. So enjoy yourself, and don’t worry about what men think about you—this will only make you less attractive.
4. Be Confident.
If you think about it, confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can wear. When you are confident in yourself, you know your strengths and weaknesses, and you don’t let the little things get to you. When you carry yourself with confidence, men take notice. After all, if a woman can be comfortable in her own skin, she must feel good about herself. This is important for men because they don’t want to have to constantly reassure their partner that she is “good enough.” Men like women who know what they want out of life and aren’t afraid to go after it. If he knows that he doesn’t have to be the one to hold your hand and tell you that everything is going to be okay, this makes him more attracted to you.
5. Learn how to flirt without being obvious about it.
The purpose of flirting is to create a spark between you and the man you’re interested in. It’s not about coming across as sexy or being irresistible, it’s about playfully engaging with someone, conveying your interest to them, and creating a little fun.
If you want to flirt with a guy without being obvious about it, here are some tips.
1. Smile at him often, especially when he says something funny or makes you laugh.
2. Touch his arm or shoulder occasionally when you’re talking to him or walking with him.
3. Compliment him on his appearance, if you think he looks nice that day.
4. Ask him simple questions that reflect your interest in getting to know him better. Don’t ask too many questions though; conversations should flow back and forth naturally without one person doing all the asking!
5. Laugh at his jokes, even if they’re not very funny. This will make him feel good about himself and more comfortable with talking to you.
6. Make The First Move.
Don’t be afraid to make the first move. Chances are, he’s waiting for you to do just that. Guys love it when a woman takes charge– it makes them feel less intimidated and more at ease. So go ahead and ask him out. Don’t be shy–there’s no such thing as “making the first move.” Just say something like, “I’d really like to get to know you better” or “I love talking to you, wanna hang out sometime?” Most guys will be flattered by your courage and confidence. He may even thank you for being so bold!
7. Compliment Him.
To men, compliments are as important as kisses. It is really good for your relationship to compliment him every now and then. This is because it boosts his confidence and makes him feel wanted. Men love to be admired and adored by their women. So if you want to make your man feel sexy, then compliment him whenever he does something right. Also, tell him how amazing he looks when dressed up in his best suit. Complimenting him is the easiest way to let your man know that you find him sexy.
8. Dress For The Occasion And Know What That Is.
You should never feel embarrassed about your outfit, whether it’s skimpy or frumpy or anything in between. If you do, that’s a sign that something is off—either with your outfit or the occasion you’re wearing it for. When dressing for any situation, especially if you’re going out of your comfort zone into sexier territory, make sure the clothes match the environment and that the environment is appropriate for what you’re wearing (or vice versa). If you’re headed to a party in a strapless dress and heels, don’t go unless it’s at someone’s home or in an intimate club or restaurant where there will be lots of people and a lot of energy around—not a coffee shop or grocery store where everyone will stop and stare
9. Show Them How You Really Feel.
It’s a scary thing to let someone know how you really feel about them. You might worry that you’ll seem too clingy, or that your feelings aren’t reciprocated, or that you’ll just look stupid. But the alternative is never knowing and always wondering, which can be much worse in the long run. And when it comes to being sexy to men, there’s no better way to get their attention than by showing them you’re interested, with words and actions. It doesn’t have to be a big production—you can just talk about your day and all the stuff you did, or all the places you went, or even the things you thought of while they were away. But if there was one thing that made your day special and had something to do with them, don’t be afraid express that feeling. The key is making sure it feels natural and not forced—let your enthusiasm come through in your voice when you tell them about it. You might think this would make them see you as needy and insecure, but actually men tend to respond positively when women show genuine interest in them. They often interpret it as confidence—the kind of confidence that will keep them coming back for more.
10. Have Your Own Life
Men are attracted to women who have their own lives, their own friends, and their own passions. If your whole existence revolves around him, then he’s going to feel trapped and suffocated. You need a life that’s completely independent of him in order for him to be attracted to you.
And this is important for reasons beyond just attracting a man. Having your own life is what makes you happy and fulfilled. It’s what makes you feel like a woman rather than just a girlfriend or wife.
You should have friends and hobbies, things that you love to do that have nothing to do with him. He needs to know that if he was never in the picture, your life would still be humming along just fine without him. Even if he knows this logically, he needs to see it actually happening with his own eyes before he’ll truly believe it.
So make sure you have a full life that doesn’t revolve around your relationship with him. This will make you way more attractive and interesting to him than any amount of cleavage or thigh-high skirts ever could.
11. Have an opinion. Don’t pick a side, have one of your own!
Pick a side. Have your own opinion. There is nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who has an opinion and isn’t afraid to make herself heard. Men love people who have strong convictions. That doesn’t mean that you can’t change your mind, but it does mean that you have to be able to defend your opinions instead of just repeating what you hear in the news or from friends. You can’t be sure of something unless you’ve looked into it yourself and come to your own conclusions, so be willing to do what’s necessary to get the information you need and make up your own mind about things.
There is a misconception that being sexy means being flirtatious and immodest. This is so far from the case. Being sexy means looking cute, being enthusiastic about your interests and it’s difficult to be flirty when you aren’t comfortable with who you are. It can be hard to be sexy because as we grow older there are always more things vying for our attention than reaching new romantic adventures. But there’s nothing sexier than a woman who knows herself, is happy and in tune with her body and the way she presents it to the world around her. Sexy doesn’t mean a specific haircut or the latest designer fashions. It’s overcoming the obstacles life throws at you, finding your passion and living it fully.