Ah, being in a new city and noticing some good looking ladies walking down the street. How do you meet them? Well, you could go up to them and introduce yourself. Or maybe even walk up and say something goofy like “You know what’s great about this city? The women here are so…immature.” I’ve never been the greatest at meeting new people, but recently I moved to a new city for work, and discovered there were a few things that helped a lot in meeting women.
1.Get out of the house.
It’s often tempting to hole up in your apartment when you’re lonely and new to town, but this is not a good approach if you want to get out and meet people. You may feel hard-pressed to come up with excuses to leave your place, but it’s important that you do so if you want any shot at meeting someone.
2.Move to a vibrant neighborhood
Ideally, when you move somewhere, you’ll end up in a vibrant neighborhood with plenty of interesting places to check out. In this neighborhood, you’ll find cafes, bars and other businesses that will become part of your daily routine — places where you can chat with other regular customers or strike up a conversation with employees.
3.Find a new job or join a club or classes that are in line with your interests
Is your career going nowhere? Do you hate what you do every day? It doesn’t matter if it’s the worst job on earth — if it pays the bills, there’s a reason people continue to show up every day. But let me ask you this: How do you expect to meet the woman of your dreams if you hate your life? If it’s time for a change, start with getting out of your current rut. Look for something that will make you happy and provide opportunities for growth.
4. Make an effort to go the extra mile with your co-workers to become friends.
Your co-workers are probably the best people to spend time with when you move to a new city. They understand that you’re going through the same thing they are and can help make this transition easier. It also helps that they’re around every day which makes it easy to get together after work. Make an effort to go the extra mile with your co-workers to become friends. Be friendly and open when talking with them and ask them lots of questions about their lives outside of work.
5.Find an Activity You Enjoy Doing
A great way to meet other people who enjoy the same things as you is through clubs or groups centered around hobbies or activities you enjoy doing. This can be anything from group fitness classes at the gym, playing on a sports team or even taking up a new hobby like knitting or painting.
6.Try coworking spaces.
These shared offices are full of young professionals and entrepreneurs who are probably looking for a conversation partner with similar interests and goals. There’s also a good chance they’re single (or at least available).
7. Make an effort to introduce yourself and start up a conversation with someone you see often.
nstead of going out drinking, try going out for dinner or coffee with your friends. When you’re outside of your comfort zone, it can be easier to talk to people and make new friends. If you don’t know what’s happening in your area, ask around at local coffee shops or cafes. You might just find someone who can show you around town.
Look online for groups that share your interests and hobbies and join their discussions. Even if they’re not actively planning events or outings, they are still great places to meet like-minded people and get involved in activities that interest you.
8.Ask your friends.
Your current and former friends might know someone in your new city who would be great for you to meet. Ask around, and see who they can set you up with or introduce you to. You might even find that some of your friends are willing to give you advice on how to meet women in your new city or where the best places are to go out and meet people.
9.Hang out at bookstores.
Bookstores are great places to find women who share your interests and passions. Browse the shelves and see if you can strike up a conversation with any of the female customers about whatever books you’re both there for. If things go well, ask her if she wants to grab a coffee or get lunch at the cafe in the bookstore (or somewhere else nearby).
10.Check into Meetup groups.
Meetup is all about helping people meet others with similar interests — usually, but not necessarily, social groups based around an activity. There are Meetups everywhere, and they range from business groups to knitting circles to book clubs. Find the ones that pique your interest, and start getting involved. (You can join their online communities, too.)
11.Greet your neighbors.
Greeting each person you pass on the street is the way my family showed respect when I was growing up. It’s also a great way to meet new people, especially if you’re someone who doesn’t make friends easily. Ask how they’re doing, ask them about their day, or just give them a smile and a greeting as you pass by.
12.Don’t be afraid to go out alone.
After moving, I was so lonely that I spent Saturday nights sitting at home watching TV like an old grandpa. One night, I decided to go out and wander around my neighborhood instead of going home after work, and it opened up my life immeasurably.
Takeaway: Meeting women in a new city can be done if you’re willing to put in some work.