I’m sure you’ve heard it before. There are red flags in a boyfriend. Wanna know what they are? Listen up, because this might save you some trouble. (Yes, yes I know… I should have written a post about early signs of a cheating boyfriend.)
1.A lot of past girlfriends are crazy
If a guy is known to be a player, it’s his own fault that he can’t keep girls around for very long. But if every girl he dates goes nuts as soon as she gets out of the relationship? He needs to take a good look at himself and wonder what’s going on there. Maybe he’s just not picking the best girlfriends, but then again — maybe he’s the one with the problem.
2.Doesn’t give you attention
He doesn’t call you when he says he will. He doesn’t follow your social media and check on you at all hours. He doesn’t ask you how your day went or if there’s anything he can do to make it better. He never wants to hang out with you when you’re not working. If a guy is being rude to you, ignore him and don’t even respond to his texts because they’re not worth the time or effort it would take to write back. I’m not saying that if he ignores you, that means he likes you or cares about you, but the fact that he’s ignoring you at all is a clear sign of his indifference towards you and your feelings.
3. Asks your friend out in front of you
Friends are a package deal and if he’s asking one of your friends out when you’re right there, it means that he’s not willing to respect your feelings. It might mean that he’s going to do something like cheat on you. It might just mean that he likes the attention or doesn’t think much of your feelings.
4. He’s controlling.
It’s important to know what kind of person you’re dealing with and if they’ll have a healthy relationship with their partner or if they’ll be controlling and manipulative. The best way to find out if a guy you’re dating will control your life is by asking yourself some questions. Is he jealous? Does he keep tabs on where you go and who you spend time with? Is he possessive? Does he always want to know about what you’re doing, where you are and who you’re hanging out with? Control is not love. It’s an unhealthy emotional attachment that only leads to hurt feelings and anger. If a guy wants to be in charge, then he has no problem moving forward without the other person’s consent. Control is not love, so don’t let it happen to you!
5. He’s overprotective.
When you’re dating a guy, it can be common for him to exhibit signs of being overly protective of you. This is often because he likes you a lot and would like to keep you safe from harm as well as from other guys who might be interested in your affections. It’s perfectly natural to want to do this, and it’s not something to be embarrassed or ashamed of. Most women have been in similar situations with the men they’ve dated. So if he’s acting this way, don’t fret—it’s not a bad thing or something you should worry about.
However, I know that sometimes these feelings are misplaced or are just plain wrong. And when they’re wrong—when he’s overprotective because he thinks he needs to be or because he doesn’t trust you—it can be a huge turnoff. You might think that his overprotectiveness is just being silly, but the world is full of crazies, and there are plenty of people out there who aren’t even a little bit crazy and who don’t need to be protected from anything at all! And if he isn’t the one for you, it will only make you look like the crazy one by sticking around with someone who is controlling and requires such close supervision that it feels like he’s more of a child than a man.
6. He makes you feel guilty for spending time with other people or doing things without him.
A good boyfriend will value your friendships, not be jealous of them. In a healthy relationship, there is no need to make you feel guilty for spending time with anyone else.
7.He expects you to change
It is not okay for someone to expect you to change who you are or what you believe in order to be with them. If a man wants a relationship right now, he should accept you as you are.
8. His friends and family don’t like him.
You can tell a lot about a guy by the company he keeps. If his friends and family don’t seem to like him very much, or if they don’t seem to respect him, that’s a red flag.
9. He takes no responsibility for arguments or mistakes.
He blames you when things are not going well, even if he is the one who is wrong. His lack of accountability can make you feel like he doesn’t really care about your feelings.
10. You can’t trust him.
This is the most important thing you need to know about a relationship; that you can tell him anything, and know he won’t judge you. If you’re with someone who criticizes you, then stop what you’re doing, and make sure the two of you break up immediately.
11. He doesn’t respect your opinions.
You have opinions for a reason; they’re yours. They deserve to be heard and taken into account when making decisions with your boyfriend, whether it’s where to go out or where to live in five years.
All in all, whether you’ve just met the guy or you’ve been dating for a while, mysterious guys are never a good sign. If he’s keeping something from you, in any capacity, there is probably a reason behind it. It’s possible that he doesn’t trust you yet or that he’s just not interested in being serious about the relationship. Either way, it’s time to move on and find someone else if you want to be truly happy.