Women make mistakes when text messaging. There’s no doubt about it. It’s funny because I used to make that same mistake until one day I learned the lesson about it. Maybe you know what are these mistakes women make too? If not, I am here to help so let me show you them.
1. Sending long messages.
A wall of text is the last thing anyone wants to read — no matter how sweet it might seem. Keep it short and sweet and watch your response rate soar.
2.Don’t send drunken texts.
This goes back to the last point I made: if you’re drunk, you shouldn’t be texting. Drunken texts are often offensive or poorly written (when aren’t they?). They’re also often poorly timed (e.g., sending them too early in the morning). Plus, a good rule of thumb is that if you wouldn’t say it sober, you probably shouldn’t be texting it either.
3.Responding too quickly.
When you’re texting a guy that you like, don’t reply within seconds of getting his text. It makes you look needy and desperate, which is one of the worst possible impressions you can make on a guy. Instead, try to wait a few minutes before replying to his text message. This will give him time to miss you, and it will also give him time to think about what he wants to say next. On top of that, it won’t make you look so available all the time.
4. Asking questions with no answers.
Some women are guilty of writing paragraphs full of questions in their text messages to guys. This is a dead giveaway that you’re needy and desperate for his attention! Instead of asking questions in your texts, ask them in person or over the phone. It’s much better to have real conversations instead of just sending back and forth text messages all day long!
5. Asking too many questions.
You don’t want to come off as an interrogator, so try not to ask him too many personal questions in one text. If he doesn’t respond right away, don’t send another text — just wait for him to get back to you. It can be tempting to send another text if he takes a while to respond, but resist the urge! If he doesn’t answer right away, he either doesn’t have his phone or is busy, and texting him again will only annoy him.
6. Relying on emojis
Emojis are great for adding personality to your texts and clarifying what you’re trying to say, but don’t rely on them so heavily that your crush can’t tell when you’re being serious or joking. It also makes you look immature and spammy if each text is filled with multiple emojis.
7. Waiting for him to text you first.
I know we live in a society where people expect immediate responses, but guys aren’t expecting you to text them back immediately. They get that you have a life and that you’re busy. If he texts you, and it doesn’t take you forever to respond, then he’ll be happy about that.
8. Making excuses for why he hasn’t texted back.
If he hasn’t texted back and it’s been a few days, don’t make excuses for his silence. Just let it go and move on. He’ll either come around or he won’t. If someone wants to be with you, nothing is going to hold them back from connecting with you.
9.Not being blunt about what you want or what your plans are for the evening.
Men don’t read between the lines so if there’s something you want to do, tell him what that is. Then ask him if he wants to do it with you, whether it’s meeting up at a bar or coming over after work to watch a movie together. Don’t be too shy or nervous to communicate your thoughts clearly; just be yourself!
10.Asking where he’s been or who he’s talking to.
If you’ve been out of touch for a while and want to catch up, it can be tempting to ask what he’s been doing… but trying to sound like his mom will scare him away! Instead, just start the conversation like normal and he’ll probably fill you in without prodding.
11. Being boring.
It’s important to remember that the written word does not convey tone very well. As a result, statements like “I’m fine” can come across as being cold or uncaring. If this is not the case, add a few exclamation points at the end of that sentence to show him that you are joking around.
12. Talking about yourself too much and not letting him have the chance to talk about himself at all.
It’s a common complaint from men that women are always talking about themselves, without giving the other person a chance to express his thoughts, feelings and opinions. So if you want your texting conversations with men to go well, don’t monopolize the conversation by talking too much about yourself. Ask him questions; show genuine interest in getting to know him better.
13. Overanalyzing texts.
Texts are not phone calls — they’re just texts. You won’t be able to get much emotional information from them, nor should you try to. Your best bet is to take everything at face value and go from there. If you hear back from the guy you’re interested in, great! If you don’t hear back for a few days, send another message and see if he replies. Overanalyzing texts wastes time and energy and usually leads to more frustration than happiness.
14.Not being fun or engaging.
Texting isn’t all about communicating essential information — it’s also about having fun conversations with people you find attractive! Sending boring messages will lead to boredom for your match, which can quickly turn into a forgotten conversation or ghosting on your part. Keep things interesting by asking questions that require more than one-word answers (or emojis), or by sharing something interesting about yourself.
15. Being too available.
This is an easy mistake to make in the beginning of a relationship, especially if you really like him. You want to respond immediately to his texts because you don’t want him to lose interest in you or think you’re playing games, but this is when he needs space. You need to give him time to miss you and wonder what you are doing without him.
With these texting mistakes fixed, you should feel more confident when you are texting a man. If you follow these steps, improvement will be noticeable to the people around you. They will notice a more confident and appealing woman. Someone they will be intrigued to meet.