So you want to pickup girls at the bar. That’s awesome! Here are some quick tips you want to remember when picking up girls at the bar.
1.Get there early.
Bar-hopping is an art form, and it’s one that requires timing. You want to get to your target location before it fills up with people so that it’s easier to talk to women without dealing with too many other men who are doing the same thing. If a group of women has already formed, it will be harder for you to break in and start talking.
Be confident. Be friendly. Don’t try too hard. Buy her a drink. Ask her questions about herself that show you are interested in getting to know her for who she is. Compliment her, but not on her looks. Make sure your breath smells good, and that you have good hygiene in general. Try to be original and interesting instead of creepy and weird.
This shouldn’t be too hard. Don’t slouch, avoid crossing your arms, and smile when she makes eye contact with you. These are all body language traits that will make you seem unapproachable or even downright hostile. No girl wants to approach a guy that looks like he doesn’t want to be bothered.
4.Get dressed up and look your best.
Take pride in your appearance, and don’t go out looking like a slob. You want to be the kind of guy that any women would feel lucky to talk to, so start with the basics and make sure you’ve got them covered:
Comb your hair.
Shave if you need to.
Wear cologne (if you believe it makes you more attractive).
5.Make eye contact with the girl(s) you want to approach
If she looks at you and smiles or maintains eye contact, move on to step two. If she doesn’t notice you or breaks eye contact quickly, look for another girl who is more receptive. Remember: not every girl will be interested in talking to you, but that’s okay! That’s life!
6.Walk up to her and introduce yourself
Offer her your hand and tell her your name; she’ll do the same. If she’s talking to someone who looks like he might be her boyfriend, ask if you can “buy a drink for the prettiest girl at the bar”. This will naturally lead in to conversation about why she thinks she is the prettiest girl, her boyfriend (if there really is one), how long they have been together, etc.
7.Don’t assume that all women are looking for a relationship
There is nothing wrong with wanting a long-term relationship and expressing that desire to a woman when you first meet her, but not every woman is looking for something serious. The worst thing you can do when approaching a woman is assume what she wants from you before even getting to know her. If you assume that she’s looking for a hookup, it could make her feel uncomfortable, so just leave the topic of relationships out of the equation until after you’ve gone on a couple dates and have gotten to know each other better.
Girls love to be complimented. It is one of the easiest ways to pick up a girl. A compliment is even better if it is unique and focused on something that you like about her that most guys wouldn’t notice. For example, if she has a different hair color than most girls, then tell her that you like her hair color. If she has a different sense of style than most girls, then compliment her on how she dresses.
This is a good way to get her attention and make sure she has a good time on the date. If you’re at a bar or club and you see a cute girl, go talk to her with the intention of teasing her. Tease her about something she’s wearing, the drink she ordered or anything else that’s lighthearted and playful. Don’t say anything mean or cruel; just have fun with it. This will build tension between you and give her a chance to laugh at your jokes. You can also just tell a joke if you don’t see anything obvious to tease about.
10. Build attraction with playful touch (grab her shoulder or hand, etc.)
You should be having fun at the bar, so why not push things a little? If you’re looking to meet women at bars, then you should start by working on your body language.
While you’re waiting around for the right time to talk to someone, practice eye contact and smiling. This is going to help you convey confidence and warmth. When you do this, it’s going to make women more comfortable to approach you.
Even better, try touching her playfully when you’re talking to her. If she touches back, then that’s a good sign she likes you. If she doesn’t, then just let it go and move on to someone else.
9. Keep the conversation going by asking questions about her life
Confidence is the number one attraction killer and there is no greater turn-off than an unattractive guy with an overblown ego. If you think you’re hot stuff, the last thing you want to do is approach a girl and make it obvious you think she’s out of your league by nervously stuttering or waiting for her to finish talking before you can open your mouth. Own who you are! Stand tall and make eye contact when you walk into the bar. Make sure your body language conveys confidence as well — don’t cross your arms or look down at your feet as this suggests insecurity. If you’re feeling really confident, throw in a wink as well — it shows that you’re secure with yourself and enjoy flirting.
Women can smell phoniness a mile away, so don’t dish out lame lines or try too hard to make yourself seem like someone you’re not