When you’re finally ready to see if your Tinder flame could be a Tinder fling, you’ll need to be sure to ace the first date.
The first date is usually the defining moment that reveals whether or not you and your date are compatible and able to have a good time together. You spent so much time scrolling, swiping, and messaging on Tinder and now you get to see if there is any real potential there.
While Tinder houses a lot of daters, it can still be quite the struggle for many men to even get to the point of a first date. Men set up their profile and start swiping only to fail to see the action they were hoping for.
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And when you score that first date, here are some rules and guidelines to help make it a success!
Make a date
When flirty texts turn in to talk of finally meeting, it’s time to plan the date.
Many men feel like it is part of their duties to plan the date, but in the modern dating scene, it should be more of a conversation. If you’d like to offer suggestions, be sure to recommend only public places to make sure you’re both feeling safe and comfortable.
Dress to impress
The big night has finally come and you’re stuck in front of the mirror trying to decide between ‘casual’ and ‘a little less casual’.
If you want to make a good impression, it’s always best to dress up from the venue slightly. Your final look should incorporate your typical style as well as look like you put at least a little bit of effort and care into it.
Right on time
For the men that find a way to be late to everything, give yourself plenty of time to get to your date.
If you can, pick out your outfit and try it on ahead of time, locate anything you might need to bring along (wallet, keys, etc…), and prep or shower a little earlier than you think you need. You don’t want your date’s first impression of you to be that you’re ‘that guy with no time management skills’.
Get in position
Even better than being on time is being a little bit early!
If you can get to the location first to scope out a good table, get snacks, or even calm down a bit before your date shows up, you’re ahead of the game. Just be sure to either let your date know where to find you or position yourself close to, and facing, the entrance to be sure they can spot you.
Meet and greet
And here we are, the dreaded first meet and awkward introduction.
While your feelings on this moment are highly dependent on your confidence, for many guys, it’s hard to know how to act when you’re finally face to face with your date. If you’re nervous about this, the best thing to do is decide what kind of greeting you and your date would likely be most comfortable with and to follow through with that greeting as confidently as possible.
Once you get past the ‘how do you do’s, it becomes a game of keeping the conversation going without too many awkward pauses.
When you want the conversation to keep flowing, make sure you planned ahead by thinking over some basic talking points. The best way to do this is to remind yourself of your match’s profile information and your past messages to pull out conversation ideas based on common interests that they shared with you.
Take care of business
While there are no longer any general rules on men paying for first dates anymore, many still like to do it if only to avoid a conversation about it.
If you don’t fall into that group, that’s fine! It can certainly be a discussion between you and your date when it’s time to pay. However, if you feel better to just pay, it is generally the least awkward if you are ready for it and quick about paying when the time comes so your date doesn’t even have to offer.
A smooth exit
After a great date, it is typically a welcomed gesture to walk your date to her vehicle.
Not only does this get her there safely and look good on you, but it also gives you two a little more time for end of the night conversations and to potentially set up another date. Good manners here, depending on your date’s signals, is to make a smooth exit so they don’t feel like you’re expecting a kiss or an invite home.
A great way to make your date feel special and leave the night off on a good note is to send them a nice message that they will see when they get home.
If you really enjoyed yourself on the date and want to continue to get to know her, sending a message letting her know that will make sure she isn’t left doubting your feelings about the date. This also relieves any awkwardness on when or who should pick the messaging back up again.
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