Wondering what girls want in a boyfriend? If ever there was a one-stop shop for every quality that girls look for in a possible long-term partner, it’s right here. Who knows, you may even learn something about yourself. Pass the test and see if you’re husband material.
1. He remembers things.
Many men will remember important dates and events in your life, even if they don’t want to make a big deal out of them — birthdays, anniversaries and so on. This isn’t just because they want to make you happy; it’s because they want to be a part of your life, and being part of your life means knowing what’s going on in it.
2.He listens to what you say.
Men listen for different reasons than women do. They’re not necessarily hoping for advice or feedback or looking for the subtext under what you’re saying; they just want to know everything about you. The more he listens, the deeper he gets into your head, and when he’s in your head, he knows what makes you tick. That’s more useful information than any advice could be.
3.He wants to know what you think.
You can tell a lot about how good a guy is at being in a relationship by how well he listens. If he asks your opinion on stuff and genuinely cares about it, that means he’s probably interested in your thoughts, feelings and experiences. It shows that he values your opinions and respects you as an equal partner in the relationship.
4. He can communicate.
Good communication is an important part of any healthy relationship. If a guy is able to communicate honestly with his partner and express his feelings without getting defensive or upset, then he’s going to be more likely to make a good husband.
5. He’s dedicated to his family and friends.
If he’s close to his parents, siblings, and friends, it shows that he’s loyal and committed to the people in his life. It also means he probably has a good relationship with his exes (or at least has learned how to handle breakups maturely). This is a great sign that he’ll be able to stick by you through hard times as well.
6. He doesn’t mind being silly.
A guy who isn’t afraid to show his goofy side is a keeper. He’s always willing to let loose and have fun, even when it means making himself look a little ridiculous. After all, he knows that true love doesn’t mean taking yourself too seriously.
7.He isn’t afraid to show his emotions.
Guys aren’t always known for showing how they feel, but if he wants to be with you forever, he’s not going to bottle up his emotions. A guy who is ready for marriage will show his love and affection in big ways and small ones every day.
8. He has self-confidence.
A guy who is husband material knows how to be confident without being arrogant. He’s assertive and doesn’t back down when challenged or intimidated. He feels comfortable with who he is, and if something bothers him he speaks up about it instead of holding it in. You’ll find that you feel more at ease with a guy who exudes self-confidence, because there’s less room for insecurities or paranoia.
9. He listens to what you have to say.
In the early stages of dating, it’s easy to get swept up in the excitement and forget to listen to what your date has to say. A guy who exhibits signs of husband material keeps you interested by asking questions and showing genuine interest in your answers. When you’re talking about your interests or goals, he’ll go above and beyond just nodding his head, because he wants to know more about you so he can better support you as a partner.
10.He has integrity and values honesty.
Guys who are truly worth marrying value their own integrity and hold themselves accountable for their actions. They don’t lie or make excuses for their behavior, and they treat others with respect because they have respect for themselves.
11. He makes plans with you, looks forward to them, and keeps them.
He makes plans with you because he wants to spend time with you, not because he has nothing else to do that week. When he does make those plans, he does his best to keep them and if something comes up preventing him from doing so, he apologizes and makes it up to you.
12.His manners matter to him.
We’re not saying this in the sense that he needs to be chivalrous (although it never hurts). What we mean is that a guy who has good manners and values common courtesy endorses respect and kindness, two things everyone needs in a partner.
13.He’s protective of you.
He’s not just trying to get in your pants (okay, maybe he is at first, but he wants more than that). He wants to protect you. He doesn’t want anyone getting in the way of your happiness or treating you poorly. You can tell from his actions and his words. He’s always making sure you’re okay.
14. He’s a planner.
He doesn’t go with the flow all the time. Sometimes, he has to plan ahead. For example, he makes reservations for dinner at a specific time, so there won’t be any awkward waiting around for tables. If he cares about his future with you, then he’ll put effort into it by making plans instead of doing things on a whim all the time.
15.He remembers details about your life and interests.
You remember what a guy says when he cares about you, so if he remembers the small things, like your favorite basketball team or your favorite color, that means he’s truly listening to what you tell him and genuinely cares about your life.
There is no magic formula to becoming the man that every woman wants to marry, but keeping these points in mind can certainly help. You don’t need to reinvent yourself as a person and you shouldn’t feel pressured to do anything drastic, but if these tips give you an idea or two of areas where you can improve, then that’s something you can take with you as you move forward.