Here are 10 helpful signs to help you figure out whether you’re alone for a reason.
Are you single by choice? Or are you miserable because you’re unmarried? The fine line between being single by choice or single because no one likes you, can be a bit blurry sometimes. Here’s how to know if you’re single by choice, and whether it’s something to be proud of or not.
1.You’re not thinking about it.
It’s possible to be single and still actively looking for a partner — you’re just not actively thinking about it most of the time. If you were desperate for a relationship, you’d probably spend a lot more time thinking about all the things you wish your future boyfriend or girlfriend would do, or how amazing your future wedding is going to be.
2.You don’t feel the need to justify your single status.
Sure, your friends and family may be curious about your love life and whether or not you have plans to settle down. But even if they try to pry into your dating habits, you’re completely comfortable with your single status and don’t feel the need to explain yourself or make excuses for not having a partner.
3.You want to be alone sometimes, but not all the time.
Your friends and family enjoy spending time with you and you enjoy spending time with them. You don’t require alone time on top of that because you know how precious it is when someone wants to spend quality time with you. Sure, there are times when all anyone wants is some “me time,” but for the most part, you love spending quality time with others because everyone enjoys being around someone who is both
4. All your relationships are platonic.
You like having friends and spend a lot of time with other people, but you don’t have any romantic or sexual relationships.
5. You have more friends than lovers.
You love being alone. You’re never lonely. You don’t get jealous when your friend dates someone new. You can spend a weekend with yourself and have a great time. Other people’s happy relationships don’t make you sad or envious — you’re happy for them!
6.You never think about what life would be like with a partner.
Every now and then, single people will wonder if they are single because they actually don’t want to be in a relationship. Is this you? If so, it may be because you are happy with your life just the way it is. You have your work, friends, hobbies and home to keep you occupied and happy. You have little interest in changing any of that and let’s face it, having a partner changes everything.
7.You’re Single and Not Dating.
If you can’t remember the last time you were on a date or if your last relationship was so long ago that you’re no longer sure what dating looks like, then you need to start taking your single life seriously. You may have just lost track of time or grown accustomed to staying home every night; however, if you haven’t dated in years and you find yourself saying “I’m so happy being single,” then most likely you’ve convinced yourself that being alone is the only way to be happy.
8. You’re Passionate About Your Career
There is nothing more rewarding than building a career you love. While it can be difficult to spend so much time focusing on your professional life, you know that you have to in order to make your dreams come true.
You work hard and you enjoy your job. You’re not bitter about being single because you have other things going on in your life.
9.Your Friends and Family Support Your Decision.
Although there might be people in your life who think it’s time for you to settle down or have children, most people close to you support your decision to remain single. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t be in your life! In fact, they probably think that it was a wise move to break up with your ex-partner so that you could enjoy your own space and freedom.
10.You’ve Been on a Few Dates but Keep Finding Flaws in Everyone
This is one of those red flags that many people don’t want to admit, but paying attention to it is important. If you’ve been dating but always seem to find something wrong with everyone, maybe there’s something wrong with your approach. While first impressions can be deceiving, they can also tell us a lot about someone’s personality and character. So if everyone seems completely incompatible, it might be more about you than them.
11.You’re Looking For A Partner But Not In A Rush to Find One.
You’re not pressured by society’s timeline of marriage and babies. You never have to explain your choices to anyone, including your family and friends who can be the most judgmental. You are not judge or jury of what other people think is best for you and may not seem “normal” to the rest of the world.
12.You Aren’t Willing To Sacrifice Your Standards Just To Be In A Relationship.
If there’s something on your checklist for a partner that’s really important to you, then it’s not just something that you’ve decided to compromise on so that you can be with someone. For example, if you want someone who is ambitious and career-oriented, then any partner who isn’t interested in working hard or climbing the ladder isn’t good enough for you.
13.You’ve Just Come Out Of A Relationship And Are Happy Being By Yourself For A While.
It’s hard to be alone if you’re not used to it, especially after being in a relationship for a long time. However, if you just came out of one and have adjusted to being by yourself again, being single might be exactly where you want to be right now.
14.You Enjoy Being Independent And Don’t Like Relying On Others.
Single life means no one else to rely on but yourself, which is great if that’s what you prefer!