Many people aren’t taught the “dating rules” of today, so they may not know what’s an acceptable way to behave on a date. Your date might be just trying to get to know you better, but if you see any of these 5 behaviors, go ahead and leave.
1.He talks about his ex.
He’s already talking about his ex, who he’s clearly still hung up on, so let him go back to her. If he mentions his ex once, maybe twice, and it is clear that he’s not pining for her but just casually throwing her into the conversation, that’s fine. But if he talks about her a lot and seems like he’s not over it, I would just get out of there as quickly as possible.
2.He makes fun of something you love.
If he makes fun of something you love — whether it’s a hobby or a pet or your favorite TV show — run. He shouldn’t make fun of anything that is really important to you during the first date. That is a red flag because if he makes fun of what you love now, what will happen when you get really serious later on in the relationship? Will he make fun of things you say or do in public? Will he make fun of your grandma? No one wants to feel like they have to be guarded around their significant other and no one should have to deal with being made fun of constantly by the person they love.
3.He is rude to your server or the hostess.
This is an extremely important predictor of how he will treat you down the line, so pay attention! If he is rude to the server or hostess, chances are excellent that he’s going to treat his girlfriend similarly (or even worse). If he treats strangers badly, then he most definitely will treat you badly as well.
4.He talks about himself too much.
If he goes on and on about himself without asking about you at all, then this is an important red flag that should tell you all you need to know about him and his ego.
5.He asks you a lot of questions, but barely answers any of yours.
This can be a sign that he is trying to impress you with his accomplishments and what he has been doing. It’s OK if he wants to tell you about his job or how many cars he owns, but he should also make sure he answers your questions, too.
6.He arrives late
You’ve been waiting for 10 minutes and there’s no sign of him. Do you wait for a little longer, or do you leave? If a guy is late on the first date, it shows that he doesn’t respect your time. Maybe he thinks punctuality isn’t important, or perhaps he never turns up on time to begin with. Whatever the reason is, you don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t take you seriously, so leave the restaurant and put this guy behind you.
7.He keeps checking his phone every few minutes.
He’s clearly more interested in whatever’s on his screen than you — and that’s just rude. If he doesn’t have enough respect for you to put his device away while you’re trying to chat with him, it’s probably best to move on.
8.No eye contact
This one is big. Now, I’m not saying that he has to be gazing into your eyes like a Disney prince whenever you’re talking (although, maybe he should…). But he should at least be making eye contact with you some of the time or looking at your face when you talk and asking questions about what you’re saying or sharing stories as well.
If a guy isn’t making eye contact with you on your first date, then there’s a good chance that he’s distracted or not even really listening to what you’re saying.
9.Talking about money or sex.
Don’t bring up money or sex on the first date; if he brings it up, tell him you’re not comfortable talking about those subjects until you really get to know him better (and mean it).
10.Texting, especially when you are with him in person.
If he is constantly texting or checking his phone while you’re together, it’s likely you’ll be ignored and not even know it at first. This is one to watch out for because the guy who makes you feel like you’re less important than his cellphone will always make you feel this way in the relationship.
11.Getting too drunk.
What could go wrong? He could get sloppy and start talking with food in his mouth (or worse, start throwing up). He could get so sloshed that he can’t even finish dinner and has to leave early — or worse — pass out before the check comes. Drinking too much is never attractive and if he gets hammered on the first date, it’s unlikely that he’ll be able to keep himself together on the next.
12.Conversation with no substance.
Good conversation is key to any relationship, whether it’s emotional or physical. If this guy doesn’t have anything interesting to say on your first date, chances are he won’t open up in the future. He may be shy or scared of losing you, but that’s not how long-term relationships work. Avoid being hurt later by leaving him be now.
13. Too much bragging.
If your date talks more about themselves than they ask about you, it’s a red flag. No one likes someone who’s self-absorbed and conceited, so don’t put up with it from anyone, not even the seemingly perfect guy or girl.
14.Checking out other women.
If he has his eyes on another woman at the restaurant or is constantly checking his phone while on your date, run! You’re not his priority. He’s either still playing the field or has no respect for you as a woman. Either way, take it as a sign that he’s not worth your time.