Some men talk their way into a good relationship – others make the mistake of not being able to get a woman to commit. Don’t be that guy. Learn how to get a woman to commit with the top mistakes your make that don’t work and why they don’t work for getting a woman to commit.
1.Being the Doormat.
You don’t want to be the one who is always there for her, but who can she never rely on when she’s in need. She will be more likely to have respect for a man who loves her, but doesn’t invest everything into the relationship and has his own life and friends outside of it. If she knows that you can stand up for yourself, she will be more willing to listen to your feelings and reciprocate them.
2.Being Too Available.
Relationships thrive when both people feel that their partner sometimes has better options and chooses them anyway. The fact that you have possibly made choices that put her first, or have canceled plans with friends because of her, should not become an excuse for her to treat you less than stellar, or not be as available to you as you would like her to be. She may even manipulate the situation by saying that she feels like you are taking her for granted because you “always cancel on her” (when in reality, she is just canceling on you).
3. Being Too clingy.
A man should do his own thing, whilst allowing her space to do hers. He needs to remember that women love independence and freedom and if he tries to take this away from her, she will feel suffocated.
4. Always Agreeing With Her.
You are not always going to agree with the woman you date. If you do, then there is a 100% chance that you will be perceived by her as a “yes man” or someone that “is not their own man.” You must understand that in a relationship, she needs to feel like she can count on you but also knows that if she is wrong, you will tell her.
If you do not learn how to disagree with your partner, then there is no way she will be able to trust your judgment and in return, be able to make sound decisions with you.
5. Giving Up Your Independence.
People get into relationships for various reasons, but one of the most common is to feel a sense of security. In this case, many guys tend to give up their independence as soon as they enter a relationship. They stop going out with their friends and become completely dependent on their partner for emotional support or company. This is a big mistake because while she wants security, she doesn’t want you to become her entire world. Give her some space!
6. Complaining About Not Having a Girlfriend or Having One That Won’t Commit to You.
Talking about how much you want a girlfriend isn’t attractive. Well, it can be for a little bit, but girls get bored of that real quick. The best thing to do is talk about other things and only bring up girlfriends when she does.
7. Being overly aggressive:
One of the biggest mistakes men make when trying to get women is being overly aggressive. Women do not like men who are too aggressive. They want their man to be confident, but not overbearing. When you try too hard, it comes across as desperation and lack of self-belief. Be confident and let her know how much you like her, but don’t go overboard with your efforts.
8. Being Overly Critical of Women’s Motives and Behavior Towards You.
If you are always second-guessing her and wondering about her motives, you are doing yourself a disservice. Trust is essential in a relationship. A woman wants to know that you trust her and will go with the flow when it comes to your relationship. This applies to everything, from dating to sex, marriage, and family.
9. Making the relationship more important than you.
You might think that telling her how important it is for her to commit and be with you will get her excited about the idea, and it will, but only if you make sure that she knows that she is more important than the commitment. If all you do is talk about how much a relationship means to you and not how much she means to you then she will lose interest very quickly. Y
10. Get clear on what you want
You should know exactly what you want in a woman and a relationship, and be able to articulate it. If you can’t, then you’re going to be dating blindly and hoping for the best. When you know what you want, your standards will rise with women. You will know what kind of behavior is acceptable and what isn’t.
11. Putting her in a position where she has to defend her decision about the relationship.
Telling a woman she has to commit because you have been together for a certain amount of time or that you are ready for marriage and kids is pressuring her into being with you and having the same feelings as you do.
The main takeaways from this list of mistakes men make when they are trying to get a women to commit to them are that men need to be patient, have a good understanding of women, and don’t be afraid to be vulnerable or let go. When men put these things into action, they will be far more likely to achieve the relationship they desire.