Have you tried to improve your relationship only to find it no longer exciting? Is your relationship boring due to daily arguments? Nothing can be as annoying and hopeless as a boring and dull relationship.
1.Fix yourself first.
Work on yourself first. If you are waiting for your partner to make you happy, then you are in trouble. It’s unfair to expect your partner to make you happy all the time. You are an individual too and should be responsible for your own happiness. Your partner can definitely make things better, but they can’t always fix what is wrong with you.
2.To start, take a break.
If you are able to go away for the weekend, book a hotel or rent an Airbnb for the night and make it special by going out to dinner or planning an excursion together. You could also try something new together like trying out a new restaurant or bar in your neighborhood. Finding ways to shake up your routine will allow you to see your partner in a new light and help rekindle your passion for them!
3.Don’t talk about things you don’t enjoy.
You’re sitting across from your partner at a restaurant, and he offers a topic of conversation you’re about to reject — again. Sure, it’s understandable that he wants to talk about his new promotion at work. But for you, there is no topic more boring.
Instead of shutting down the conversation, though, try this: Steer it in a direction that interests both of you.
For example, after your partner reveals the good news about his promotion, ask him what his next goal is. What type of position would he like to have in five years? Does he want to move up through management or stay in his current role?
If you really are not interested in hearing about his job, then ask him what other goals he has. Maybe he wants to travel or go back to school or open a business someday.
Don’t stop with just one question. Ask follow-up questions based on what your partner says next. You’ll probably find that before long you are having an engaging conversation because you’ve learned something new about your partner that makes him more interesting than ever before.
4.Try new things together.
One of the easiest ways to liven up your relationship is to just do some new activities together. This doesn’t necessarily mean jumping out of a plane or going bungee jumping (although if you want to, go for it!). It can be as simple as trying a new restaurant or bar, seeing a play or going for a hike. The activity itself doesn’t matter — it’s that you’re doing something different and getting outside of your normal routine.
Have a weekly date night. Don’t wait for special occasions or weekends to enjoy each other’s company — schedule regular time together and use it to have fun. You don’t have to make it fancy either. It can be as simple as cooking dinner at home, having drinks on the patio, or watching your favorite band at a local bar.
Play games with each other. You don’t have to spend money on board games and video games — there are plenty of free online options like Words With
5. Focus on the good stuff and not the bad.
If you want to improve the quality of your relationships, it’s important to focus on the positive. It’s easy to feel like you need to fix something that’s not working, but if you don’t fix it, it’ll just be an excuse to keep bad behavior going.
This is true in any relationship, but especially so in clashing romantic ones. If one person is consistently rude or nasty, it can destroy the relationship. A better approach is to work on a strategy for changing this dynamic, recognizing that ignoring the bad behavior won’t solve anything and focusing on what’s good about the other person.
If there’s nothing good about your partner, focus on that instead of trying to make up for it with a kind gesture or amicable conversation. Even if you’re dealing with someone who doesn’t seem to care about your feelings and just wants to be mean all the time, try making time for them and focusing on what you can build in your relationship together.
If all else fails, consider developing a friendship with someone who really hates your guts but seems nice enough otherwise. It might be hard at first, but it could turn into something valuable in the long run.
6.Take notice of your partner’s needs
Don’t just assume that they know what their needs are. Ask them! Talking openly about what they need is a sign of a strong relationship. If they don’t know the answer right away, have patience while they think about it and discuss it with you later.
7.Change your surroundings once in a while.
Do something adventurous together. Make no mistake about it – doing something adventurous together can bring back the passion into your relationship once again. It does not matter if you will go scuba diving or rock climbing together
8.Pay more attention to what you’re doing.
A lot of the time, the reason relationships feel boring is because they’re not the focus of our attention. We get caught up in work and other commitments or hobbies, and let our relationships take care of themselves.
You can’t coexist with a partner for years and then expect it to be exciting every moment of every day (or at all) without paying attention to what’s happening. A lot of relationships feel boring because we’re not focused on them, but instead on something else — work, hobbies, friends, whatever.
Talking about your relationship with your partner is important here too so that both of you know where the other stands and have an opportunity to address any concerns.
You’ve heard it before: Treat others as you want to be treated. This is especially important in a relationship. When you make an effort to be kinder, you’ll both feel more positive and loving towards each other. It’s so easy to get caught up in arguments, but try this instead: Switch your focus to being kinder than necessary and thanking your partner for what they do for you.