It can be hard to get a man to commit. But it’s not impossible. I actually used some great techniques that helped me pick up a guy who was already married – and he ended up leaving his wife for me. How do other women get a man to commit? I asked 12 of my female friends this question, and got some seriously good insight from them.
1.Be clear about what you want.
Men often give mixed signals, acting like they want a relationship and then pulling away, leaving women confused, wondering where they stand, and feeling rejected and unwanted. Unfortunately, this leaves many women missing out on valuable relationships.
If you want a relationship with a guy, let him know by being clear with your expectations and your level of interest. Don’t play games or try to make him jealous – be honest and upfront about your feelings. If he’s not interested in commitment or is only interested in casual dating, accept that and move on!
There are plenty of men who want commitment and will take action if they find a woman they’re truly interested in!
2. Set your expectations.
In general, men do not like to be put on the spot, especially when it comes to issues of commitment and marriage. Therefore, it is important that you set your expectations early on so there are no surprises later on down the road. If you know that you want children, let your partner know (if he doesn’t already know). He might be ok with kids, or he might not want them at all! This will help
Section: Never waste your time on a man who isn’t committed to you.
When a man tells you that he doesn’t want a relationship, believes he is not ready for one or discredits all women as being the same, take it as a red flag. He may be saying those things because he feels guilty about his current situation, or because he genuinely doesn’t want to commit. Either way, your time and energy are precious don’t waste them on someone who isn’t ready to commit.
3. Show him what makes you special.
Show him what makes you special. Letting a guy see what makes you such a catch is another great way to increase his affection for you. It will intrigue him and make him want to get to know you even better. For example, if you are skilled at playing an instrument, look for an opportunity to play in front of him. Or, if you are an excellent baker, whip up some cookies and share some with him.
4.Try to make him jealous.
Making a guy jealous can be a good thing if you do it the right way. If your ex-boyfriend has moved on seemingly quickly, it may mean that he was never really serious about your relationship in the first place. In that case, there’s nothing to lose by trying to make him a bit jealous so that he now wants to commit deeply to you. Here’s how to try it:
Make sure he knows that other guys find you attractive. Try flirting with other men when your ex is around.
5. Get him to commit to something simple.
It doesn’t have to be a big deal. It can be going out for coffee, taking a walk or just agreeing to spend an evening with you watching TV. Once you’ve made the suggestion, give him space to think about it. This is key because if you seem too desperate, he’ll think you’re trying to trap him into something and he’ll dig in his heels even more. If he’s not ready for a relationship, he will back away from you.
Don’t try to force the issue by making ultimatums or setting time limits on when he should commit. He will see this as a sign of weakness on your part and will only make him dig in his heels even more. This is especially important if his reason for being uncommitted is because of other women in his life who have made such demands of him in the past and did not appreciate that part of who he was, but loved him anyway.
6. Find something you both enjoy doing.
When men commit, they like feeling like they’ve found their “other half.” Look for shared interests and enjoy spending time together pursuing them.
7. Don’t pressure him; guys really hate that.
So, you’re ready to settle down. You want the man of your dreams to commit to you, and think you’ve finally found him. Naturally, you want to know how to get a man to commit.
But before you start planning wedding dates and looking at baby names, you need to know what it’s going to take for him to commit in the first place.
The more you pressure him, the more he’ll pull away from you. Whether it’s calling too much, talking about moving in together or marriage too early on or even doing things like putting his toothbrush in your bathroom cupboard – it’s important that he sees that you’re still your own person and not someone who is desperately trying to get him to commit.
Be interesting. Be yourself. And be ready for a commitment when he is!