If you’ve been thinking about your future together and getting serious with your boyfriend, then you’ll know there comes a point where the question of marriage will be brought up. And while it’s awesome that he sees a future with you, bringing it up can be terrifying as you try to find the right words to convey how you feel on the matter. So if he hasn’t brought up marriage yet, (or vice versa) here are some signs he probably doesn’t want to marry you.
1.He doesn’t talk about marriage at all.
If he doesn’t bring up the topic of marriage, it’s clear that he’s not thinking about it, and that is a big red flag. This could mean one of two things: either he truly hasn’t thought about it or he has thought about it and decided against it. However, the most important thing to consider is how long you’ve been dating and if you two have talked about getting married. If you’ve been dating for a couple of years and haven’t had the conversation yet or he says he doesn’t see himself getting married, then you should really start considering whether or not this guy is right for you.
2.He’s frequently late without a good reason
A man who is truly invested in being your husband won’t leave you waiting for him. If the man in your life is habitually late without good reason, he doesn’t see you or the relationship as important.
3.You’ve been together for a long time and he hasn’t proposed.
If you’ve been dating for, say, eight years, and he still doesn’t quite feel like marriage is in the cards, then it could be because he never will. He may love you very much, but if he’s not willing to commit his life to you by way of a wedding ring, then it could mean that marriage just isn’t in the cards.
He has commitment issues. If your guy has a history of short relationships filled with dishonesty and infidelity and keeps making excuses as to why he can’t give you more (time, affection, etc.) then it could mean that his commitment issues are preventing him from committing to you. “If someone truly wants an exclusive relationship with somebody they will make every effort to be with them,”
4. You don’t know his friends’ or family’s names.
You’ve been together for three years and yet you’ve never met his family, or he has never introduced you to any of his friends. Not only is it a sign that he isn’t serious about you, but it could also mean he’s hiding you from someone — perhaps another woman.
5. He doesn’t want to plan things with you.
In a healthy relationship, both people are excited to spend time together. If your boyfriend keeps saying he’s “just not in the mood” when you try to make plans with him, it could be a sign he doesn’t want to marry you. He should be just as enthusiastic about spending time with you as you are about spending time with him.
6.You have different moral codes.
If you don’t share the same ethics and values, then you’ll end up fighting a lot and wondering why you’re together in the first place.
7. He is constantly checking out other women.
If your boyfriend is always checking out other women, then it could be a sign he doesn’t want to marry you. Of course, this doesn’t mean he’s going to cheat on you; perhaps he just likes to look at other women as he appreciates their beauty.
However, if your boyfriend isn’t even trying to hide the fact that he’s checking out other women, then it could be a sign that he thinks marriage isn’t for him. If he was serious about marrying you, we doubt he’d be so careless about where his eyes wander. If this sounds familiar, we suggest discussing
8.You feel like there’s no foundation for a future together.
What does your future look like together? If you are unsure, that’s probably an indication that he doesn’t have plans to be with you in the long run. If you are looking at a future where you’re living separate lives, it may not be worth it to stay in the relationship. It may sound harsh, but life is too short to waste on someone who isn’t willing to create a life with you.
9.His friends don’t know your last name.
If his friends have no idea who you are and don’t care to ask about you, chances are they don’t expect to be meeting anyone new — because their friend has no intention of getting married soon or ever. His friends should not only know your first name; they should also know what makes you special and unique compared to all the other girls in the world.
He’s not interested in your life.
If every conversation is about him, it’s possible he doesn’t want to marry you because he’s not interested in your life or feelings. He might not share his feelings either since he doesn’t care enough about you to put you first and make sure your needs are met. It’s important that both of you feel heard and validated in the relationship because those things are vital when working through problems as a married couple.
10.He proposed…but won’t set a date.
Maybe he’s nervous about getting married and is worried about making the wrong decision, or maybe he just isn’t ready to commit. If your boyfriend proposed but won’t set a date, you should get to the bottom of what’s holding him back.
Takeaway: Be on the lookout for these signs, so you don’t waste your time on a man who won’t marry you!