There are many reasons women think they’ll never find true love. Whether it’s because they feel like an unwanted child, or that they’re “too fat”, or because they just came off of a big breakup, there is hope. Here are some common reasons that women think they can’t find true love, and what you can do to help your friends get back on track!
1. They’re over 40.
Many women over 40 have developed the mindset that they will never find true love. It’s not that they don’t think it’s possible or don’t have the desire to find true love. That’s rarely the case, in fact. What they believe is that finding true love is not an option for them.
2. They’re too picky.
Every woman has her “list” of requirements for a potential partner. Not all lists are long and specific, but a lot of women feel like they’ll never find true love because they just can’t seem to find anyone who checks off enough boxes on the list. The problem is that no one is perfect, and that list isn’t going to change unless you’re willing to compromise on some things.
3.They don’t go out enough.
It’s almost impossible to meet men if you’re always sitting at home or at work. Sure, you can meet them at grocery stores, book stores or coffee shops, but those aren’t great places to get to know someone. A better way is to get involved with activities and organizations that you enjoy. That way you can meet men while doing something that interests you.
4. No One Will Ever Love Them As Much As Their Ex Did
Women often feel like no one can ever love them as much as their ex did. This makes them feel like there’s no such thing as true love because their ex was so special and unique in his own way that no one else could possibly compare to him!
5. Their friends are all married.
It’s hard to see everyone around you getting married and having kids when you’re still single (or recently single). But just because their lives may seem perfect doesn’t mean yours isn’t. You’re doing your own thing right now, so focus on that and stop comparing yourself to others. You will find your happily ever after — I promise!
6. Their job takes up a huge amount of their time.
The thing is, they’re not just busy at work because they love it. The truth is, they don’t have a choice in the matter. Their boss threatens to fire them if they even think about taking a sick day or vacation day. And the worst part is that they don’t have anyone in their life who can help them to get back on their feet if their boss did let them go. So they feel like they have to keep working as hard as humanly possible, since this is the only way that they can guarantee that their boss won’t be able to find any reason to kick them out of the door.
7. It’s always someone else’s fault
There are plenty of legitimate reasons why you might not be having the best luck dating right now. Maybe you don’t really vibe with the people in your town, maybe you’ve had bad luck with guys recently and it has made you wary, maybe your friends aren’t setting you up on dates they should be. But if you’re constantly blaming other people for what’s going wrong in your love life, it might be time to start looking inward instead of outward.
8. No one ever asks you out.
This is probably the biggest reason single women feel that they’re never going to find love. They’re just not meeting anyone new. Even if they go out with friends to parties or bars, they’re not being introduced to men who are interested in dating them. The solution is simple: Get out there! Sign up for an online dating site or app, volunteer at a local nonprofit or take a class at a nearby college or adult education center. Even if you don’t meet anyone right away, you’ll enjoy meeting new people and learning something new.
9. You have a checklist for your soulmate.
You have a mental list of all the things you want in a partner — and it’s pretty specific. You don’t expect to find someone who ticks every box, but it’s hard to imagine ever settling for less than half of them. It’s just not going to happen, you tell yourself.
10. You don’t take chances on people.
Even if there is an attractive or intriguing person around you, you’re not going out of your way to talk to them. You’ll give them the benefit of the doubt, but you’re not putting yourself out there unless they make a move first. If they don’t, then it wasn’t meant to be — right?
11.You’re just waiting for love to find you.
Yes, sometimes love finds people when they least expect it, but other times people need to go out there and find it themselves. If you keep sitting at home waiting for someone to come along and sweep you off your feet then chances are nothing is going to happen anytime soon.
12.You don’t make time for dating.
You have a lot of priorities in your life — work, friends, hobbies, family…and even if love was on that list, there just aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done. You’ve resigned yourself to the fact that finding a guy will take time and energy, and you’re willing to wait until you find someone who makes it worth the effort.
It’s important to remember not to give up. Living your life with a positive attitude is key, and while things may feel hopeless at times, they almost always change for the better. It might not happen during the week you think it will, but that doesn’t mean it won’t happen eventually.