Are you dating someone new? Do you learn a lot about each other right away? Or do you find yourself wondering how you should be acting with this new someone? There’s nothing wrong with feeling a bit nervous in terms of how to act. Learn why men play certain games when they want to test women and what they can mean.
Section: He texts you and then goes days without responding.
This is one of the most common games that many men use to test their partner. It plays on the natural competition that exists between genders, which is why it works so well. If he hasn’t heard from you in a while, he might start thinking about you more often because he isn’t sure if you’re thinking about him at all. If he doesn’t hear from you soon, he may send you a text message to see if you respond. If he doesn’t hear back right away, it may lead him to think that you aren’t interested and move on quickly without giving it much thought at all. However, if he hears back from you right away, it will only encourage him further because he’ll know how much you miss him too!
Section: He acts all distant when his friends are around
Be careful not to be fooled by this immature and manipulative game. When you’re with a man, if he constantly brings up other women in conversation, it’s probably because he wants to see how you’ll react. He’s trying to make you jealous so that he can hold the control in the relationship. If he mentions an ex-girlfriend, he’s probably trying to see if you will be insecure about it or not. This is a tough one to deal with because you have every right as a woman to be upset about an ex-girlfriend being brought up in conversation.
Section: He tells you that your friends aren’t really your friends.
When a guy says this, he’s basically saying that you’re not capable of having a healthy relationship with anyone but him. He wants you to think that only his opinion matters and that your friends’ opinions don’t count for anything; don’t fall for it! Your friends are there for a reason, they love and care about you and want what’s best for you, just like your man should. A relationship should enhance your life and make it even better, not make you miserable by cutting off all of your connections with friends and family.
Section: He’s checking out other women in front of you
If you catch a guy staring at other women while he is with you, make no mistake, he is testing your reaction to it. He wants to see how badly his actions hurt you and if you’re going to get jealous or not. His intention is to make you feel insecure so that he can have the upper hand in the relationship. If you give him a green light by showing him that this doesn’t bother you in any way, then he’ll start doing it more often; just to see how far he can go. If it bothers you, then let him know but do it maturely without overreacting because men tend to switch off when they sense too much drama.
Section: He offers to pick up the dinner tab, but not other expenses
This is a subtle way for him to test your response to his generosity, but not necessarily his commitment. If he’s really into you, he’ll pick up the check without hesitation and will probably insist on it. Pay attention if he says something like, “I’ll get this one since you got dinner last week.” Men who aren’t quite sure about you may offer to pay for dinners, but not other dates or entertainment.
Section: He makes his life busy on purpose to see if you’ll ask him out.
This is one of the oldest tricks in the book. The guy is trying to gauge how serious you are about him. If you invite him to go somewhere and he’s too “busy” it’s because he wants to know if you’ll make the effort to go after him.
Section: He wants to keep your relationship a secret
If a man doesn’t want people to know that you’re dating, then there’s a good chance that he’s not ready to commit to you. He might be in another relationship or he just might not be ready for anything serious yet. You can either break up with him or wait until he’s ready to make your relationship public knowledge.
Section: He Never Plans Ahead To See You
If a man never plans ahead of time to see you and always waits for you to make arrangements, then he’s not ready for a relationship with you. In order for a relationship to work, both partners have to make an effort and plan things ahead
Section: He asks you for your opinion and then ignores it.
If a guy is testing you, he might start an argument with you for no apparent reason. This kind of behavior is designed to see if you’re going to stick around when things get tough and heavy.
Section: When he is angry, he won’t tell you why.
He’ll try to make you feel guilty for something that is not your fault. He wants to see if your emotions can be controlled by him and if your mood can be dictated by him. If you give in and accept the blame, you are making yourself a pushover. If you’re going to apologize for something, make sure that it is legitimately something that you did wrong. Don’t allow yourself to be blamed for someone else’s problems or issues, whether they’re related to you or not.
What is the ultimate goal of these games? To test a woman’s emotions, to see how she’ll respond and what her deal-breakers are. It’s almost like a personality test without the boring questions and answers sheet. A guy can find out how this girl will react if he manipulates and tests her limits. Then he’ll know how to behave around her in future interactions.