You might be wondering why I left my girlfriend in the first place. Well, it’s like this: she didn’t treat me right. She was narcissistic and kept bringing down my self-esteem. I was only with her looks. But, turns out, looks fade while personality stays strong.
1. She didn’t like my family.
They were loud and opinionated and asked a lot of questions she didn’t want to answer, which made her uncomfortable. She wanted to spend every holiday with just us, but I felt like that would be unfair to them, so we split our time between families. This made her angry every year around Christmas and Easter, because she had to buy extra presents for everyone or make more food or travel longer distances or whatever else she felt like complaining about that day. After a few years of this behavior, my family started getting sick of her…
2. She constantly complained about her job and her co-workers.
It got to where I couldn’t even listen to her anymore. Her attitude was affecting me so negatively that our relationship started to suffer.
I finally had enough and told her that she needed some time off from work, or maybe even a new job. But she just kept complaining and explaining away every single reason why she couldn’t be happier at work.
3.She was getting too clingy
Well, she was getting too clingy. She started pressuring me to get serious about our relationship and settle down. I’m 25 years old, so it’s not like I’m ready to have kids or anything, but she kept asking where our relationship was going and kept talking marriage.
4. She was jealous of my friends
he’d always make little comments about how they were too close to me — or that they didn’t like her — or that something was going on between us, even though there wasn’t. And if I was hanging out with them without her for more than an hour or two at a time, she’d get really upset with me and accuse me of cheating on her (which I never did).
5. She didn’t understand boundaries and gave me zero privacy.
We’d been living together, but it had only been three months. I was working at a summer theater camp and she was working at a local restaurant. We were both happy with our jobs and were very close to many of my coworkers.
The problem was that my girlfriend was convinced that I wasn’t telling the truth about what happened when I wasn’t with her, or who I spent time with. She refused to believe any answers I gave her about anything going on in my life, even if it directly contradicted something she had told me earlier.
She began asking for all of my passwords, insisting that she needed them if we were going to be together. I refused and told her it just wasn’t okay for her to ask for all of them. She insisted that we couldn’t be together unless she knew what I was doing every second of every day, which is when I left her.
6. She always wanted everything to be her way
.She insisted that if she cared about something more than I did, then it was more important by default. We would have the same fight over and over again until I finally gave in just to make the arguing stop so we could live in peace for a little while.
7. She drank too much and got loud when she did.
The first time it happened, we were out with her friends at a bar, and she embarrassed me in a way I thought only teenage boys had to worry about.
The second time was worse. We were at a party, and she stumbled into the bedroom where I was getting dressed. She fell on me and almost knocked me over. She was so drunk that she couldn’t stand up on her own.
I was mortified for both of us. And this wasn’t an isolated incident — it happened all the time. It got to the point where I’d beg her, please don’t drink tonight, and then watch her do it anyway.
8. She is Always too Busy
People who are busy all the time tend to have an attitude problem. They think that they’re more important than you. You need to see if this is happening with your girlfriend by looking at how she acts around her friends and family.
When we say she’s always busy, does she really have plans every single time? If so, then you should be happy for her because it means that she has a lot of people that care about her.
If she has plans most of the time and leaves no room for you in her schedule, then this is a sign that she doesn’t care about you as much as you do about her.
If she can’t find even a few minutes to talk to you or hang out with you, then it might be time to leave her.
9.She was very insecure.
She was always telling me I’d leave her for someone better, which to be honest, was a possibility. I didn’t have a lot of time for her, and she wanted more attention than I could give. In the end I had to go, because it wasn’t fair on her.
I’ve learned a lot since then and I’ve continued to learn more ever since. The greatest lesson of all is that neither my ex nor I could be whoever the other person wanted. Sometimes good loves comes to bad ends and sometimes good loves don’t work out for us at all. To this day, I still haven’t told her that I wrote this about her. In truth, it wasn’t about her at all. It was about me and what it took for me to be with her, but it ended up being about the two of us because she couldn’t understand what kind of guy she was dating.