Calling all girls! Do you have a boyfriend? If you’re reading this then I’m sure that you do. Now, take a seat and listen, because I’m about to tell you the reasons why I broke up with my boyfriend.
1.He was too emotional.
My boyfriend was really emotional and cried all the time. He cried when we were fighting, he cried when he was stressed, he cried because he didn’t like himself. It got to the point where I would be uncomfortable talking about anything too deep with him because it would just devolve into him crying.
I would try to comfort him, but I don’t think I was any good at it and it made me feel bad. It was hard for me to love someone who couldn’t even love themselves.
2. He put his friends above me.
If your boyfriend hits up his guy friends every weekend because he “needs time away from you,” don’t let him into your bed that night. Time and time again, studies have shown that men who are close with their friends are happier and live longer than those who don’t have male friendships. However, if he’s blowing you off for his boys constantly without giving you any attention, it’s a red flag.
3.You don’t trust each other anymore.
Trust is the foundation of any good relationship. But when one partner starts to grow apart from the other, trust can quickly become an issue. If your boyfriend does things like check your phone without asking, it may mean he doesn’t trust you anymore and is trying to find evidence of cheating or flirtations with other guys.
4. He didn’t make any effort to change.
At the beginning of our relationship, my friends warned me that he was controlling, but I didn’t believe them because we were so happy together. However, after a few months, I began to notice little signs of this control creeping into our lives. He always wanted to know where I was going, who I was with and what I thought about everything. He started checking my phone when I wasn’t looking and would tell me how much time I had left on my break if we went out for lunch together at work or ask why I spent too long in the shower. It threw me off at first, but then it became normal.
5. I’ve always had my doubts about him.
Firstly, I don’t think that he was the right person for me. I’ve always had my doubts about him. We never seemed to want the same things in life. He’s very happy with his job, whereas I’m not. He’s one of these people who knows exactly what they want out of their life and goes after it. I, on the other hand, have been drifting along with the tide for the past few years and have no idea where I’m going or what I should do when I get there.
6. He didn’t have any goals or ambition for himself.
I know that sounds bad, but if you aren’t doing anything with your life, then it makes me wonder what are you bringing to the table in our relationship? My goals are very important to me and I need to be with someone who feels the same way about their goals in life. He didn’t seem to understand that.
7. He Was Very Controlling
If he tells you what to do, who to be friends with, how to dress and how to act; that’s not love. That’s control. And it can be dangerous. If he is inconvenienced by any of your actions, he will get angry and/or upset. This is not normal, nor is it healthy.
8. His Friends Were Always A Priority
When you’re in a healthy relationship, your partner should make you their number one priority aside from themself. Your partner’s friends should come second to you — not the other way around. If your partner is constantly putting friends, family or even work before you, then that is a huge red flag!
9. He couldn’t handle my independent personality.
My boyfriend wanted me to be dependent on him. He always tried to do things for me, even if they were small tasks that I could easily do myself. He would want to pick me up from work every day or buy groceries for me every week. I don’t like this kind of treatment because it made me feel weak and incapable of taking care of myself.
10. When we made plans, he would cancel last minute.
When we made plans, he would cancel last minute. When I asked him to hang out, he would say no. When I called him, he wouldn’t return my call for hours. When I would ask him what was the matter, he would say “nothing.”
I thought that it was just because we were growing apart, but then I found out that it wasn’t me at all. It was because he was spending more time with his friends.
I didn’t know who he was anymore and this relationship couldn’t be saved if someone isn’t even putting in an equal effort.
11. He wasn’t ready to have a real relationship.
I dated this guy who was absolutely perfect. He was good looking, smart, funny, and sweet. It seemed like we were the perfect match. However, he wasn’t mature enough to handle a real relationship. He liked to play games with me and kept making me jealous by talking to other girls. After a while it got too much for me so I decided to break up with him.
Overall, it was a choice that I had to make for my own good. It’s easy for me to see that now, but in the heat of the moment, I did not foresee the turmoil that would ensue when I walked out the door. However, in life, you must rise to the occasion and grow from past mistakes. And although this may seem like the end of the story, it most certainly is not.