I’m sure that you’ve fallen for the same type of girl before. I know I have! You’re not alone and you’re certainly not the only one who’s experienced this. Below, we discussed some reasons why you fall for the same girls over and over again!
1. You’re Not Exactly Looking For a Relationship.
You might not be ready to admit it, but you’re just looking for something casual or some extra attention. You might have been hurt in a past relationship, so you’re taking a break from love. And that’s fine — there’s nothing wrong with being single and not dating. But if you’re constantly falling for the same type of girl who can’t give you what you want, then you need to reevaluate your situation and find someone who’s on the same page as you.
2. You’re Hoping To Change Them.
The problem is that people can’t be changed. If you are with someone who is not “perfect,” do not assume that they will eventually change into someone who is more to your liking. You will only end up disappointed and annoyed when she doesn’t turn out to be the person you hoped she would. Instead of trying to change her, accept her for who she is and try to fall in love with that person.
3. You’ve Never Had The Relationship You Want To Have.
You may have never had a relationship you really wanted and so the first girl that gives you some attention gets it. Even if she isn’t the type of person you’re looking for, you might take what you can get because your loneliness is overpowering.
The more relationships you have, the better picture you’ll have of what it is you want and need in your life. You won’t make mistakes with women who aren’t right for you just because they show interest.
4.You Haven’t Learned From Your Mistakes.
You just can’t seem to stop dating people who play hard to get. You’ve dated them before and they make you feel like you constantly have to work for their attention. If your relationships are similar in this way, then maybe you haven’t learned from past mistakes.
5.You’re not ready to move on
Maybe you two were together for years, or maybe you were together for only a couple of months. It doesn’t matter. You still might be hurting from the breakup and may feel like you aren’t ready to date other people. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that, but it could be that you should actually be dating someone else — someone who will complement all the things your ex didn’t and help you get over her… or at least get over the pain of losing her.
6. You’re in denial
You try to convince yourself that this person is completely different than your last significant other. You believe wholeheartedly that you can change everything about them to fit your needs because there is something about this person that you really like. You have a strong desire to keep them around, so you overlook any red flags and ignore your gut feelings in order to remain hopeful. You become blindsided by love and believe deep down inside that you can make things work with this person regardless of how they may treat you in the future.
7.You’re looking for something familiar.
The type of girl you fall for is the one that’s most similar to your ex, or any other past relationships you’ve had. You want to know what you’re getting yourself into, and you want someone who’s familiar with how you like to be treated. There are certain characteristics common in girls you date, and that’s what draws you to those women.
Section: You have no idea what you want from a girl.
If this is the case, then it only makes sense that you would fall for the same type of girl over and over again. Because she fits exactly what you think you want in a girlfriend — even if it’s not true at all. Your mind is telling you that she’s right for you, and your heart wants to believe it too. But when this happens repeatedly, it’s time to take a step back and figure out what it is that your heart really wants.
8.You’ve been hurt in the past.
If something happens once, it might just be a coincidence. If it happens twice, then it’s a pattern. Have you been hurt in the past? Maybe your first girlfriend cheated on you, or maybe she broke up with you for no reason at all. These types of relationships can leave lasting damage on your mind and heart, and we’re often attracted to people who remind us of our exes (even if they aren’t good for us).
9.You’re a hopeless romantic
You know that feeling you get when you meet someone new and you’re like, “This could be the one!” and then it turns out they’re not? Yeah, you have that feeling all the time. You can’t even help yourself sometimes because you just love to be in love.
10.You like being overprotective
Hey, some girls are just naturally in need of a little extra protection. We’ve all been there. There’s nothing wrong with being attracted to a woman who needs you for protection! It’s a natural trait for a lot of people and it’s not an issue unless you feel the need to smother her.
11.You’re addicted to the excitement
Love definitely makes you feel alive, doesn’t it? When you’re around someone who makes your heart beat faster than ever before, it can be hard not to want more of that feeling, right? Well, that’s where the addiction comes in. The more you get addicted to this feeling, the more likely you are to keep seeking out people who can provide it for you… even if they don’t treat you right
Think about ways you can challenge yourself to date outside of your comfort zone, and don’t be afraid to let go of old relationship habits that don’t work for you. Also, accept feedback from others when they ask why you keep falling for the same type of girl. In fact, they’re probably right. If nothing else, take solace in knowing that you are not alone. Every guy falls into this category at one point or another—it’s just a part of life.