There are a number of reasons why you fall for the same type of guy over and over again. You were miserable in your previous relationship, and so, you’ve decided to find yourself a guy who is nothing like the last. This way, you thought, it would be a lot easier to stop being attracted to him. But somehow, no matter how different they were, you couldn’t help but fall for them. That’s because there are five basic personality types that you keep getting attracted to. The reason for this is because he has all the characteristics that are missing from your current partner. Let’s discuss those types here.
1.You’re Not Over Your Ex
When you’ve just broken up with someone, your emotions can be all over the place. You might still be in love with them, you might miss them terribly, or you could feel relief that things are over. But regardless of how it ended, getting out of a relationship means that at some point, you have to start dealing with being
2.Physically, you’re attracted to their qualities.
You might be in love with their hair or the way they dress. There are lots of different physical features that can attract us to someone. Most likely, it’s because deep down, we want someone who is masculine or feminine and represents what we like to see in ourselves. With this type of guy, it’s all a physical attraction and not much else.
3.You’re familiar with their personality.
We all know familiarity breeds contempt, but sometimes we are attracted to people who are similar to us because we understand them better. People who look like us could be a good sign when it comes to dating because we want someone whom we can relate to and share our lives with.
4.You have similar interests.
If you find that your boyfriends all like the same music, are into sports or share other hobbies, maybe that’s because you’re interested in those things too. If that’s the case, don’t give up on guys who share your interests — just try asking around in different places than you usually do. For example, if you meet your boyfriends at concerts, try going to a sporting event or another activity instead.
5.You have the same sense of humor.
You love it when guys can make you laugh and being able to laugh together is a great way to find common ground. You won’t always agree on everything, but you’ll be able to laugh about it.
6.You both have a similar life outlook.
If you’re attracted to men who seem more successful or ambitious than you are, the novelty of the relationship can wear off pretty quickly when you realize that you won’t be able to share each other’s day-to-day lives. There are lots of reasons why this can happen: Maybe he works in a different industry than you do or maybe he works long hours and isn’t as available as you’d like him to be. Whatever the reason, it’s hard to feel emotionally connected when one partner is living his dream while the other is feeling like she’s on the sidelines.
7. There’s comfort in familiarity
If you’re with someone who is similar to your exes or other past romantic interests, you’re already used to the dynamic. Maybe he acts like your dad or reminds you of a friend. Whatever it is, it’s familiar and that makes it easier to fall in love with him.
8. You need someone who matches your intensity
Do you obsess over guys before even going out with them? Do you get wrapped up and attached after just a few dates? It’s not that you’re “too much” for most men — it’s just that they can’t keep up with you. Of course, the heart wants what the heart wants, but you might want to consider if your type is really your type or if they are more like a bad habit.
9.You’re looking to be saved.
If you find yourself gravitating toward men who will “fix all your problems,” ask yourself what exactly is going on in your life that needs fixing. If you’re approaching guys from a place of desperation, it will be hard for any guy to live up to those expectations and even harder for you to see him as he really is when all your hopes are pinned on him.
It’s great that he makes you feel like a million bucks, but if he can do it for everyone else, too, watch out. He’s probably just a natural flirt — not necessarily all hot air and no follow-through, but definitely someone who can make anyone feel special. If you’re hoping he only has eyes for you once things get serious, think again.
11.You think relationships get better with time.
A lot of people buy into the idea that time will heal all wounds. So if you’re in an unhealthy relationship, you may find yourself thinking this person is only acting like this because he’s going through a hard time, or she’s just new to dating and doesn’t know what she wants yet.
12.You’re afraid of being alone.
The sad truth is that some people are willing to sacrifice their happiness for companionship — and that’s what you’re doing when you refuse to be single. It’s better to enjoy who you are and be on your own until someone comes along who makes you happier than you can make yourself.
13.You don’t know what you want
We all have a certain idea of what our perfect guy looks like (come on — admit it). But many times the reason we get stuck in a relationship rut is because we don’t actually know what we want out of life. We just think we do. That’s why it’s important to take time for self-reflection and figure out exactly what your goals are as an individual… before getting into a relationship with anyone else.
There’s no denying that you have a type. The question is…are you aware of what it is? If you have an unerring habit of finding yourself in relationships with similar guys, then it might be worth trying to figure out why. However, if you take a critical look at these similarities and realize that they really aren’t that important to you, perhaps your type isn’t so fixed after all!