Have you ever stopped to think about what makes a guy lose interest? I did! And, after giving it a lot of thought, I came up with my list of the top 10 things girls unknowingly do that make guys lose interest in them.
1.You keep texting him, but you never ask him out.
You are a very busy woman and you have a million things going on at once—highly admirable traits that you should be proud of! But here’s the thing: if you don’t make time for the things that are important to you, it sends the message that whatever it is isn’t actually important to you. So if you really like this guy, make sure to carve out some time for him. And don’t just text him either; make sure to set up an actual date (or two!) so he knows that he’s not just another number in your phone.
2.You tell him all about your exes.
Don’t get me wrong—it’s totally okay to talk about your past relationships with a new guy. But there is a difference between sharing funny anecdotes and complaining about how awful your ex was and how he treated you badly or cheated on you or whatever else. The last thing a guy wants to hear about when he’s trying to get close to you is how badly another guy hurt you in the past. It makes him wonder whether or not he can trust you, which isn’t exactly conducive to getting close!
3. You’re not his type.
Now this is tricky because it could mean a few different things. It could mean that he’s literally not attracted to you physically, or it could be something about your personality that he doesn’t like. For example, maybe you’re too needy or clingy for him, or you don’t share the same sense of humor as him. Either way, if you want to turn things around with this guy, start taking steps to improve yourself so that he finds you more attractive.
4. You act too much like a friend.
When you first start dating someone, it’s only natural that you want to spend all your time with that person. However, if you want them to stick around, you have to make sure not to smother them.
5. You act “too nice.”
It can be tempting when we meet someone who we really like to bend over backwards for them in order for them to like us back. However, if you start doing everything for your guy early on in the relationship, he will take advantage of this and lose respect for you as a woman. Learning how to say no and set boundaries is just as important as knowing how to be kind and loving.
6.You don’t have any other plans.
This might seem like a good thing at first — after all, if he’s your only plan, it means you’re free to spend time with him whenever he wants. But guys love a girl who makes them feel wanted, not needed. If you don’t have anything else going on in your life besides this guy, he’ll assume you don’t have many friends and are desperate for his attention — which is the opposite of sexy.
7.You always want to be in control.
Women are generally more sensitive than men. So, it’s natural for them to be protective of their feelings and take care of things that are important to them. This can make them think about love and relationships too much and start worrying about what their partner is thinking or feeling.
This can lead women to believe that they have to be in control of everything, from planning the date, what they’ll eat during the date, how long they’ll be together and other details of their relationship. This can lead women to act like control freaks who feel the need to dictate everything just so they will get what they want.
8.You don’t give him any attention.
Nothing is more annoying than having someone who is always on their phone or ignoring you when they respond to texts hours later or not at all. And if that’s how you treat your friends, there’s no way that he’ll think it’s okay for him to be treated like that by you. He wants a girlfriend who cares about him, gives him a little attention from time to time and isn’t glued to her phone 24/7.
9.You think too much into everything.
The best part about dating is that getting to know someone is a process of discovery and your partner should feel like an exciting mystery you’re trying to solve. The worst thing you can do is take him too seriously, analyzing his every word and action, looking for signs of whether or not he’s The One. This is not the way to have a successful relationship!
10.Your “neediness” is off the charts.
Neediness isn’t just a state of mind — it’s a physical manifestation. When you’re needy, you’re always worried about what other people think of you, afraid they won’t like you, desperate for their approval.
Every one of us has issues we need to work through, and every one of us has self-improvement goals we want to achieve. But if you’re so focused on yourself that there’s no room for anyone else in your life, guys will notice and steer clear. If you want to be the kind of girl guys want to date, stop obsessing over yourself for five minutes and start paying attention to others.
12.You have no friends or interests outside of him.
When a guy sees that you have absolutely no life outside of him and that everything you do revolves around him, it can quickly turn him off. He wants to know that there’s more to you than just being in a relationship with him and that you have other things going on in your life.
13. You’re not independent enough.
You don’t have your own life, and you need a man to have a life. You might not even have friends, a family or a job, but we all know there are some hobbies out there that we can pick up and learn to love.
By knowing what some of the potential turn-offs are, and how to avoid them, you keep yourself in a better position and increase your chances of keeping that man by your side.