Here Are Some Of The Most Common Ones (And How To Deal)
Going on a first date sometimes can be tough, but there are easy ways to make the whole process more enjoyable. You don’t want the night to go wrong, right? So take a look at some of these common things people do on first dates that totally ruin it.
1.Treat it like a job interview.
No one wants to feel like they’re being interrogated. And no one wants to answer a question like, “So what’s your five-year plan?”
2. Make your date out to be something it isn’t.
If you’re taking a girl out for dinner, don’t tell her that there will be live music or dancing (unless you know for sure). This sets up false expectations, and when the date doesn’t have the outcome she was hoping for, the disappointment will be even more painful than if she had just known what to expect from the beginning.
3. Talk about your ex, or things that remind you of your ex.
Again, this sets up false expectations by making your date think that you’re still hung up on an ex-girlfriend/boyfriend. And again, this is a bad habit that can lead to disappointment later on in the relationship.
4.Ask lots of questions and show little interest in your date’s answers.
This is just plain rude! If you don’t care enough about someone to listen to what they have to say then why are you even bothering to go on a date with them at all?
5.Being rude to staff at the date location
This is a good way to show your date that you aren’t very empathetic or respectful of others, particularly those who are in positions where they can’t fight back (servers, bartenders, etc.). Even if there’s some legitimate reason why the restaurant screwed up your order, there are better ways to handle it than chewing out the waiter in front of everyone else.
6.Ordering something expensive
Here’s some crucial first date etiquette: Don’t order the lobster or other expensive items on the menu. You want to be respectful of your date’s finances, and you don’t want to make your date feel like you’re expecting him or her to foot the bill for your food and drinks.
7.Making A Bad First Impression
The first few minutes of a first date are crucial, as it’s during this time that you’re going to decide if you’re interested in seeing this person again or not. And when it comes down to it, it’s really easy to make a bad first impression. If your date smells bad or is dressed like a slob, there’s probably not going to be a second date. But don’t get too comfortable — making a good impression can be just as hard as making a bad one, especially if you’re not used to being around other people.
There are definitely things people do that totally ruin a first date. If the guy I’m on a date with orders a few drinks, I don’t automatically assume he’s an alcoholic. But if you can hardly stand straight at the end of the night or slur words so badly that your date has to ask you to repeat yourself over and over again, chances are they won’t want to go out with you again
9.Not being present because they’re on their phone all night
This should go without saying, but please put away your phone during your date. There is nothing more frustrating than when someone is on their phone the entire night while out with someone else, especially on a first date. Yes, even if it’s only for texting your friend about how the date is going.
Being late not only shows you have no respect for your date’s time, it also shows them you don’t care about their opinion of you as a potential partner. If they cared if they went on another date with you, they would not keep them waiting at the restaurant or bar you agreed to meet at.
11.Only wanting to talk about themselves and one topic, rather than have a normal conversation where a variety of topics are discussed
They talk about themselves too much. We all have that one friend who just loves the sound of their own voice. One way to tell if someone is that person is if you notice that their conversations on the first date are mostly about themselves, with little interest in getting to know you.
12. Bringing up politics or other controversial topics the other person may not be ready to discuss yet.
Discussing politics/religion. These are two topics that are very personal and passionate for people. If your date starts discussing these things on a first date, it’s probably a red flag that they’re close minded and not open to new ideas or opinions that differ from theirs.
13.They try to impress by buying everything.
Sure, if you can afford it and it suits your budget, that’s fine — more power to you! But if you’re just trying to impress your date with expensive stuff during a first date because “that’s what people do,” then that’s a bad idea for two reasons:
Reason 1: It makes them feel uncomfortable
Reason 2: It shows that you might be insecure in yourself and/or manipulative
14. Lying about yourself
There is nothing worse than starting off a brand-new relationship with a lie. It will catch up to you in some way, shape or form eventually — whether that be big or small — and I’m willing to bet that it won’t be pretty when it does happen. Instead of being upfront and honest about who you are, you’re telling your date that they need to guess which version of your personality is the real one.
Don’t be one of these people. At the end of the day, while you might get away with it once or twice, trying to pick up girls and guys by doing any of the aforementioned things aren’t guaranteed to work. In fact, they might have a negative impact on your game altogether. So avoid making mistakes that could kill your dating opportunities for good.