Are you in a relationship? Or are you planning to be? You might be wondering how to have a happy relationship. Here’s a quick list of some things I’ve learned over my time and that have helped me, that I hope can help you too.
1.Appreciate your partner for who they are, rather than for what they can do.
If you love someone, you should respect their individuality, and not try to force them into being someone they are not. If your partner has a different opinion, or even a different way of doing something than you would, don’t try to change it. Instead of trying to change who your partner is to make them more like you, accept them for who they are and learn from their unique perspective. Even if this means accepting things about your partner that annoy you, try not to let these things come between the two of you.
2. Treat your partner as you’d like to be treated.
It’s a simple, yet powerful concept. Every day, treat your partner as you’d like to be treated. If you want your partner to show up for you and call you on time, then show up and call him or her on time. If you want your partner to be honest with you, then be honest with him or her. If you want your partner to be open and truthful, then be open and truthful.
3. Quality time
Do things together that you both enjoy. Even if you never have time for date night, make time for simple things, like watching TV together after work or going for a walk on the weekend. These little things can help build up the strength of your relationship in a big way.
4. Take time out of your day to show your partner that they are appreciated.
Make Time For Each Other. This is huge. If you want your relationship to last, you have to make time for each other. Put down your phone, turn off the TV and sit down with each other at least once a day. You don’t have to talk about anything important or even say anything at all; just being together is enough sometimes.
Do little things that surprise your partner, such as a love note tucked into a briefcase or an e-mail sent during the day. Show that you are thinking of your partner throughout the day. This will foster closeness between the two of you and keep your relationship strong.
As important as honesty is in relationships, so too is kindness. No one wants to be around someone who is complaining all the time or putting down their partner constantly. Be positive in your interactions with your partner and always treat them with respect.
7. Do not use sex as a weapon and do not pine to get it all the time when it is not available to you.
Do not withhold or use sex as punishment. This creates resentment and destroys intimacy.
8. Don’t nag.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of constantly complaining about things that need to be done or changed, but this will only lead to frustration and resentment. You may think that you’ll get your point across by repeating yourself, but all this does is annoy your partner. Instead of nagging, make a conscious effort to ask for what you want in a kind way.
9. Make room in your life for activities outside of the relationship and encourage your partner to do the same.
Taking time away from each other every now and then will allow you both to recharge and come back together feeling refreshed.
10. Respect each other’s differences.
You’re not always going to agree with each other, but that doesn’t mean you have to argue about it either. When you both have an opinion about something, remember that neither one of you is necessarily right or wrong; there may be multiple ways of doing things that are all fine and reasonable.
11. Many people don’t realize that there is a difference between compromise and sacrifice
Making compromises means doing things for the sake of your partner, but not at the expense of your own needs and values. Compromising is a good thing, because it shows that you are willing to make an effort for your relationship. However, sacrificing your own needs and values for the sake of making your partner happy is not a good idea. If you do this too often or if you don’t feel like you’re getting anything positive out of the relationship, then it will probably lead to resentment which can ultimately destroy your relationship.
12.Ask for what you want
If there is something you want from your partner, tell them clearly and directly what it is. This might seem obvious, but people often assume that their partner should know what they want without having to say it. If you are feeling angry or upset with your partner, this is particularly important. It is not fair to expect your partner to read your mind.
Follow these tips to the letter and you’ll be well on your way to being in a happy relationship. And if you’re not sure where or how to begin, we recommend starting with a nice dinner for two. It’s a great place to get to know each other, and it never hurts to have dinner together. But don’t stop there: make sure that you talk about everything going on in your life, work and otherwise, because trust is vital to any type of long-term relationship. That includes the good stuff, but also the bad—you can’t get anywhere in life without embracing the full range of experiences that come with it. In other words: be honest with each other, share your hopes and dreams with one another, and remember that being themselves makes people truly attractive. Be patient whenever they make mistakes, since everyone makes them; be forgiving when they need it; and support each other when times are tough as well as when they’re good. These things will go a long way towards keeping the romantic spark alive in your relationship…and who doesn’t want that?