Have you ever wondered why certain couples stay together for years and others just seem doomed from the start? If so, you’re not alone. But don’t worry. I’ve gathered up a list of signs to look for in order to tell whether or not your relationship is built to last. Many people think the beginning of a relationship is all that matters, but there are many keys to success that can be identified in this case study.
1. Your partner is your biggest cheerleader.
You want them to succeed as much as you want to succeed. You’re willing to put in the effort needed to help them achieve their goals and dreams. If they have a big test or presentation coming up at work, you’re willing to put in extra hours at home so they can practice their speech or study without worrying about dinner, laundry and bills.
2. You’re comfortable with being vulnerable.
One very important aspect of a relationship is the willingness to be vulnerable. If you feel comfortable with him about sharing the deepest and darkest parts of your life, then you can trust that he will never use it against you. He will never ridicule you for that weakness, but instead, he’ll make sure to help you stand up on your feet again.
3.Your partner looks forward to the future with you – and vice versa.
When you’re in love, it’s natural to be excited about what’s ahead. But when you’re truly with the right person, the future can seem downright magical.
4. Your partner motivates you, but they also respect your goals and ambitions.
This means that they want to see you do well, but that they aren’t looking for you to depend on them to reach your dreams. Instead, they are likely to encourage you, sometimes even pushing you to go further than what you initially thought was possible for yourself.
5. You’re both committed to making the relationship work.
Your partner knows that you’ll be there for them, and vice versa. You know how to compromise and resolve conflicts in a healthy way, without resorting to intimidation tactics or passive-aggressive behavior. You’re both committed to making the relationship work, no matter what obstacles arise. You feel secure in the knowledge that neither of you will cheat or abandon the other person when things get tough.
6. You don’t keep score of who does what in the relationship or who has done more for the other person.
Rather than making a list of who’s done what for whom and feeling resentful if one person has done more than the other, you recognize that relationships are about give-and-take and everyone does their part to make things work smoothly. If one person does more for another because they have more time or resources, then they do so because they want to, not because they feel obligated or resentful about it.
7. You can be yourself around each other
When you’re first getting to know someone, it’s easy to put on an act and pretend to be someone or something you’re not. But as time goes on and the honeymoon phase wears off, it becomes harder and harder to maintain that facade. That’s why it’s so important that you feel comfortable showing your true colors — both good and bad. A lot of problems in relationships stem from one person feeling like they have to hide parts of their personality.
8. You can be yourself around each other.
ome people don’t like to admit this, but we all have different sides of our personalities. Your friends may know a side of you that your family never will, and vice versa. But if you’re in a healthy relationship, hopefully one person knows every side of you. Being able to truly be yourself with someone else is one of the biggest signs that your relationship is built to last forever.
9. You understand each other without speaking.
It’s not just nonverbal cues that reveal how well connected you are — sometimes it’s what isn’t said that matters most in a relationship. That’s why being with someone who knows what you need without asking can show how strong your bond is. And when they know exactly how to tell you something even when they’re not saying anything at all,
10. You can agree to disagree
A healthy relationship doesn’t mean always agreeing with your partner. In fact, it’s impossible to agree on everything. The important part is that you can resolve conflicts without fighting or arguing. You may have different opinions or ideas, but you’re able to respect each other and come to a compromise.
11. You have fun together.
It’shard to keep a relationship going if you’re not having fun together anymore. Maybe you used to go on date nights where you’d try out new restaurants or find fun things to do in the city. Or maybe your idea of a good time is staying in and watching Netflix shows together. Whatever it is, make sure that you’re still having fun after many years together!
12. You want them to do well in life.
When someone does something great, like getting a promotion at work or completing a challenge, a good partner will be happy for them instead of feeling resentful or jealous. You want your partner to succeed in life and are willing to help them out when they need it — and vice versa!
Believe it or not, the signs that your relationship is built to last are right in front of you. You just have to know what to look for, and how to read the small signals that show your bond is going strong. In the beginning stages of a romantic relationship, when you are giddy with infatuation, it can be hard to tell if something has staying power. In reality, however, no matter how lasting a new romance seems, there are always signs that it’s not built to last.